What do I do about DH being mean?

[SharonGless]

This is my first post in relationships so please be gentle with me but tell me if you think I am a twat.

DH bought me a second hand Ipod nano for Xmas. This is after buying me a second hand Nintendo DS last Xmas (that he plays on more than me.)
It may sound trivial but he is so tight with money it is really winding me up. He won't go to certain pubs with his friends as they cost too much per pint -even if all his friends are going he would rather not bother.His sister is really pissed off with him about his meanness after we went out for a family meal with 15 people and he wanted to calculate exactly how much everyone owed individually.

We are not rolling in money but we are certainly comfortable. We put a limit on £100 each this year which was fine by me. I did buy new items for him and would never dream of buying him second hand things as a gift. Is this me being unreasonable?

This is probably just the tip of the iceberg if I am honest but I need to deal with one issue at a time.

No, no need to apologise Cautious, you are spot on, the lack of communication can sound the death knell on a marriage. There needs to be much more talk between them on the wider issues.

Cautious? Getting all topical with the subject matter, sorry Curious!

Why don't you just take action, he'll soon get the message. If you want a new Ipod go and buy one & if you know he is liable to act like this in company just make sure you have been to the cashpoint first and say 'Does £90.00 a couple sound right? Don't worry about the children', or whatever you think sounds fair and just put the money down. Believe me, you won't have to do it many times. Equally if you know you are out with a mean tipper just make sure you have cash so if they settle up and don't leave a tip, you can just place the appropriate amount on the table (just make sure they don't take it with them

Thanks for all the input - am going to consider my response so I don't drip feed if I decide to disclose everything on here. Was very down last night but some of that was alcohol induced which I should stay away from especially when mixed with ADs.

I will be back for advice soon - cheers again for bothering to post

Did you want either of the presents he got you or were they really presents for himself?