Struggling to multi task my relationships

[kmac80]

Hi hi, well I know that this issue is nit a new one and I was warned that 1 in 3 relationships end within the first year of having a child, just didn't think I'd find it so hard.

Our baby is nearly 5 months old and is not "an easy baby" so I'm tired all the time and any free time I get I favor a cuppa and book over replying to friends emails, phone calls and having alone time with my partner. We haven't had sex in a long time (me no libido) and everything just feel a like it is suffering.

I'm worried that we will grow apart. How do you make sure this doesn't happen?

I can't leave the baby with a babysitter as he is a nightmare to get to settle, won't take a bottle, dummy etc.

Aw kmac, have a cuddle (((()))))

I agree with phosphate, it's entirely normal and such a tough time. It does get easier, even if you don't believe it yet.

I fell off the face of the earth when ds was months old. Didn't even manage to answer the phone, he was in my arms 24/7 and took up all of my energy. Finally I did email friends and thanked them for being understanding. Dh lived on takeaways until ds was about six months old! Actually, until I gave up the breastfeeding, life was chaos. When I did move on to bottles I felt I had much more time and control over the day.

Do you manage to get out for some fresh air every day? That can make a real difference.

It will get better, try to accept the mess and the disorder knowing that soon you will be juggling all the balls with aplomb again and much more like your old self.

Do you have any family help?