Dh has 'given up on MIL'

[PeachyClair]

Now, I can't stand her and she's not got anyone much who can (FIL left last January), but Dh well- it's his Mum right?

Bascially they are not close any more (used to be very until he met me), as she thinks he is cheating her by having contact with his Dad and step- mum-in-law-to-be (who are very nice). But last weekend we were stranded near her because there was a gas alert and our car was in the danger zone. It was after midnight when we got the car, 2 older ds's were with us (4 and 5), we were two and a half hours from home and sh wouldn't let us sleep on the sofa because of lack of notice.

DH says that's it, he won't have any more to do with her (or his brother who always backs her up).

What do I do? I don't want kids not to know Grandma, but she isn't a healthy person at all.

Think DH REALLY means it!

If she isn't prepared to let her 4 and 5 year old grandchildren sleep on her sofa in an emergency like that, then I would have to question whether she deserves to be their Grandma at all. I would think they're better off not knowing her than being treated like that.

because of lack of notice????

what did you do instead??

PC I cant blame your dh as you were all treated awfully IMO.
I understand you want her to know her grandchildren but is it really a healthy atmosphere.

We were invited by FIL's fiancee (we have met 4 times or so) to sleep there, thankfully, nearly had to go home. But I think she does have OCD, it might have been this? She hasn't seen much of DS1 since his Aspergers dx: I think she is scared of him. She never liked ds2 (didnt visit him until 6 weeks coz I wouldnt go to a Christening day after I delivered... after do was in a smoky pub or I would have gone, she wanted a lift). She does like the youngest tho.

i'm beginning to think DH is right!!!!!