I haven't been on for a while but have name changed for this, for obvious reasons. Just need to talk to someone about it really because keeping it secret is actually eating me up right now!
I met my DH's best friend before I met my DH when they were both living in London and far away from me but visiting for christmas. They have been friends since childhood and are really, really close. One night before I knew DH his friend and I spent some time together and it was clear we were really attracted to each other but nothing happened because I had just split up with my boyfriend. He went home and back down to London and I met DH.
All was forgotten until our wedding where DH's friend was actually the best man. He made his speech and spoke about that night when I invited him in for coffee and he was disappointed to actually be given coffee!
Since then whenever I have seen him, which is not that often, he has really flirted with me. Last night when DH was getting a beer he was talking about that night and saying "maybe in another life" I was also pretty aware that he was looking at me and he kept commenting about my cowboy boots being sexy and how he liked girls who wore cowboy boots. A lot of stuff in front of DH including at one point asking him how he felt about all of his friends having "had a thing" with his wife.
Another of DH's friends who I had befriended before I met him had got quite close to me and I had had to distance myself from him because he had started to have feelings for me. DH didn't really appreciate the last comment. I protested that it wasn't my fault his friend couldn't understand I only wanted to be friends and I had stopped speaking to him and that nothing had happened at all between him and me...
But here's the thing... I can't stop thinking about it, I like him. It is ridiculous and last time he came up I felt funny like this and then I just ignored it and forgot pretty quickly. I know the appropriate thing is to just distance myself but I like the little flirtation - gah.... Please keep me sensible.