just seperated

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I have just separated from my DP after many months of ups and downs-mostly downs.
We have a 11 month old DD. My ex has many issues having had a breakdown when our DD was born and then being diagnosed with Bipolar 6 months ago. He also drinks heavily and smokes cannabis every day. He isn't receiving any treatment for his Bipolar. Life has been awful for so long. I am now relived to have finally made the spilt.
My question is how to arrange contact? He has never looked after her,he's never put her down for a sleep or fed her. He can change a nappy and bath her. He doesn't play with her,he usually plays music he likes and just holds her. I am uneasy with leaving her with him. What kind of arrangements might work? And how much contact would be reasonable? I would like them both to benefit from their relationship but I also put my DD's happiness and safety first.

Sorry for your trouble.

Makes me wonder if he should be left alone with dd at all?

Considering that he has not really cared for her at all up to this point I think that any contact needs to be under your supervision, at least to begin with.

Good luck x

Have been away this week so only just saw ur
problem,in my area there is a contact centre
at the local under fives group its run by social service and the people there keep a close check on what goes on and ur DP can ask any one for help at any time,they will not interfer but keep a friendly option open if he wanted any advice,certainly would not allow sole access at the present time let him prove he is responsible first, GOOD LUCK