Any one out there the child.of a narcissistic parent?

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Just wondered if anyone else out there has a narc parent? My mother has a very narcissistic personality am I have been trying for a long time to free myself from the damage and dysfunction it left me with. She can be kind and loving at times so not as bad as some but is massively self focussed and often was/ is oblivious to my needs eg when I started my periods at 8 her only comment was 'oh of all the days to start". No other emotional help. She always uses me as a source of narc supply and tried to bring me up as a mini me. Before I knew better I was pretty like her but after several breakdowns and therapy and a fab dh I have changed a lot. My main concern is making sure I don't do the same to my kids. Anyways she is here for Xmas and been driving me nuts eg when I had just started showing my 2 yr old twins their stockings she totally interrupted me loudly telling them to look at the huge pile of presents under the tree taking over .. Does it all the time. Sigh. Just 3 more days!

Yes. My mother is a narcissist. So is my father. It's only recently I've realized just how fucked up my childhood was, as a result. Oh and by the way, I'm married to one. Wheeeeeeeeeee...

The stockings thing sounds very familiar...

I'm making big resolutions re standing up for myself wrt narcissists in my life. For me, low contact is crucial.

Same here - both parents are narcissistic.

DP and I didn't arrive until Boxing Day at my folks house due to snow travel chaos, whereupon I was filled in by my sister about the utterly crackers behaviour on Xmas day....

Sis had brought her DP home for Xmas for the first time, and was hoping for some normal behaviour for one goddamn day. Xmas day ended up with everybody quite pissed, my mum utterly arseholed, sprawled on the bed in tears because the 'room was spinning' and she was inches away from being sick all over the bed. Sister had to spend 2 hours looking after her. Meanwhile, sister's DP was trapped downstairs in a room with my dad and brother (also a narcissist), brother laying into my dad for putting his career first and never giving a shit about his family. When my sister later confronted my dad about how inappropriate this behaviour was in front of DP, he acted like she was off her trolley and feigned innocence as to what could have been so upsetting about it. Lovely

ohyay, I'm not normally much of one for NY resolutions but am making big plans this year . Low contact also works for me, and I cannot say enough about psychotherapy, it's turned my life around, though I'm very much still in the middle of the process. Low contact, on your terms, and refusal to accept responsibility for their happiness seems to be the way forward. Take care of yourselves - just being aware of how inappropriate this behaviour is shows that you have massive amounts of self-awareness, which is more than can be said for our families