Maybe a random sounding question, let me explain.
The MIL came to stay over Christmas, she has been very ill with various aliments, thought she was going to die 10 days ago due to flu etc. (Her diagnoses not a medical one).
Anyway she has always been attention seeking and ill throughout DH's childhood, worked part time but was always off sick etc.
So back to yesterday, she's at our house with the heating on 24/7, there's plenty to eat but when she's hungry she asks what the plan is for food, so I say really casually oh help yourself the fridge is heaving. The DD's then pipe up that they fancy a pizza so I put the oven on.
MIL then makes her own pizza and sits and eats it in front of the 10, 8 and 6 year olds. I put down the baby, get up and put their pizza in and feed them.
Would it have been so much effort to pop their pizza in whilst she ate hers ?
Later on that evening I'd put the girls to bed with hot water bottles as the window in their bedroom doesn't shut properly and there is a draft but once they are cosy in bed it's fine.
The middle one gets up around 9pm, asks me to refill her hottie and then goes back to bed. Grandma helps herself to the hot water bottle next to the kettle and walks off with it. I make a joke about granny nicking the bottle, DD is in tears because she thinks she's not getting it back and then when I demand the water bottle back granny has a major sulk and goes to bed without saying goodnight.
Now normally I wouldn't care less but she's hankering to move in with us and I just don't think she'd put any of the children's needs above her own, which what I think 99% of parents and grandparents would do, am I right ? DH of course was brought up by her so he knows no different.