Well what a revelation!

[5ElvesMooningSanta]

So today my mam and I were walking to M&S for a bit of Christmas food shopping, when she tol me that my dad is not my real dad. I have known this for 11 years, so has not come as a surprise, I overheard her when she was having a drunken conversation with my aunt.

She is somewhat toxic, so I am quite surprised she told me directly. Not sure how to take it really?

I am planning on waiting until after Christmas to ask her who my real dad is, I already know roughly, I just need a name really. Not even sure I would contact him, I just want to know why.

Not sure why I'm posting, just shocked that she has actually mentioned it straight to my face.

Good God, what an awful way to impart major information, your parentage

How are you feeling about her 'confession'?

I am feeling quite good actually, as it has been a huge skeleton in my cupboard. I am hoping she will tell me more about it.

Her husband (not the man I call dad) has had loads of conversations about it with DH who then tells me about it. It has annoyed me so much that everyone else knows about it and I don't know anything. He told DH that she doesn't want to tell me and it would kill her if I ever asked, so yeah, I'm feeling ok about it. Maybe relieved?

Seems odd really, as I never expected her to part with this information without a fight.

lol I had that same information told to me when mum was arguing with dad.

Didnt bother me at all, in fact quite a few things started to make sense. So I can understand completly where you are coming from.

That's not just family news -
That's M&S family news.

Sorry to be flippant but how amazing. Poor you having to keep it under the carpet all this time. Sounds like you are handling it so well.

Well sh is back on full toxic form, the bitch.

SHe came around this mornign for all of 10minutes to wish us a merry christmas and to see the DC's toys (I have three boys). No presents as it was agreed that she would give them to them tomorrow at her Boxing Day buffet, same for my sisters two girls.

Sister called earlier to wish me a merry christmas, and said that her daughters got some lovely things off our mam. And also said that they still have something to open there tomorrow. Now, I know it shouldn't be about money, but it pisses me right off. DN1 is 6, and she got a present today that was £20, and has a present to open tomorrow that is £30. DN2 is only 9 weeks, and had three outfits and some blocks today, and has a doll thing tomorrow. Fair enoungh. But my boys have had £30 spent on them, didn't get anything extra and I had to GIVE her £2 (yes two english ppunds) towards DS2's present as it went over the agreed £30 she said she was spending on each child.

Favouritism towards girls? Of course! Now I'm not even sure I want to go there tomorrow.

What a pity the "revelation" was that you had a different father rather than a different mother.

If only that were the case!