Date six - is it ok to do the asking?

[geekgirl78]

So, after many dating disasters and a firm resolution to be single, I've just met a lovely man, who seems to be quite keen. We've met for five or so dates, and it's been amazingly good fun.

Thing is, he lives quite a way from me, tho' works in my home town. He's mentioned that he isn't doing a great deal on New Years this year. I've been invited to what promises to be an amazing house party, as a plus one. I would love to invite him - not least because he'd have a great time and I'd love him to meet my friends who are throwing the party. BUT - so far we've done the fairly traditional thing i.e. him doing the asking with dates etc. Would it be a bad idea to invite him? It's kind of complicated because it would mean his staying with me, and we haven't done the deed yet, so to speak. Or am I actually living in 1921?! Help?!

I would go for it! You're right its not 1921, take the reins and invite him as your date. He will be flattered and you will get a great confidence kick Good luck! So jealous!

Of course you can ask him. But is your reluctance due to an etiquette quandary, or because you don't want him to sleep over yet?

Bit of both really. Am a bit hung up on the whole letting the man do the asking thing (so much easier), but it is also the sleep over thing. Am not good at uncommitted sex. Would love to be, but am simply not wired that way. So it will probably be a case of 'come to an amazing party - but you'll be sleeping in the spare room' kind of situation. Absolutely do want to send mixed messages, or be a tease....,

Obviously that should read 'absolutely do not want to send mixed messages'!

Ask him! What's the worse that could happen?