Who said 'I love you' first?

[madonnawhore]

Do you think it matters?

Interested to hear MNers views on who should be the one to drop the 'L' bomb, how and when..?

I did, after about 3ish months together, we've now been together 2 and a half years and have a ds :)

I worked with my husband but in different offices. He emailed his mobil number to me and we got chating.

3 weeks later and £150 mobile phone bill he said i love you and hung up at the end of a call so i was shooked as he had never meet me in person and did not know what i looked like.

I loved him for that and txt back I love you too

Him.
About 3 months in.
On the phone during a row while he was playing golf. I was picking up stuff from dd's floor.

I had not long read "The Rules" and wasn't going to tell him first!

Silly really. We both knew anyway, so it didn't come as a shock or anything. Glad to has got it out of the way TBH.

OH we have been together 6 years married 4 in may and have a 22 month old son and we still love each other

I told DP I was falling in love with him after a month or so and two meetings. This was in the context of some enormous barriers to us being together. I was trying to make it clear that we shouldn't stay in contact. Didn't work - he felt the same and 8 years later we're still together with two DC!

Me, after a couple of months.

He did.

About a week after we met. (the day we met he came back to mine and never left!)

I think I said "oh" or "thank you" or something like that

Then told him I loved him a day or so later

And we married 3 months after we first met.

DH, a couple of months after we started going out. I was pretty shocked but flattered. I don't think I said for a while (been together 23 years now)

Awww you guys

I guess you had to be pretty sure the other person felt the same way otherwise you might look like a bit of a dick though, huh?

He did.

Before I even knew he fancied me.

On a picnic in Richmond Park.

I told my now DH after 2 months. I knew he loved me well before he told me which was after 5 months. Next month we will have been together for 15 years.

I never worried about looking like a dick because I was too in love

I did and only after a few weeks too - in all fairness i was drunk and lost in the moment of passion. He replied "thankyou" and i felt so embarrassed. I then went away for work for a few weeks and when i returned he said it and i replied "oh that's nice" to get my own back

We have been together 11 years, married nearly 8.

He did. We had been together about 3 months and it was er, at quite a vulnerable / senstive moment so I wasn't sure if he meant it or had just got carried away in the heat of the moment. I chose to pretend I hadn't heard and we never spoke of it again. He told me again about 3 weeks later though :)

He did, after 2 weeks.

I remember the exact words: I think I'm falling in love with you. Swoon.

I was 17, he was 18. I knew I loved him too but thought I'd sound like a slushy over-keen girl if I said it and so was over the moon when he got there first. I think I hugged him on the day (stupid power play) then said it back the day after.

Still together 16+ years on and with a DS.

Him, a few weeks after we got together. I think I just smiled. I had never heard it from A Man before, not one I cared for and believed, anyway. Found it scary, overwhelming, and somehow empowering. I think it took me nearly 6m to say it myself. I wanted to be absolutely sure I meant it first, and not just reply automatically.

When I finally said "I love you" it felt wonderful! Just saying it made me feel like we were falling in love all over again.

He did after 2 weeks. I had suspected it for about 3 years though. The feeling was very much mutual.

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Do you think if someone you weren't sure you were in love with (yet?) told you that they loved you, it would be a deal breaker and put you right off?

With dh2b it didn't. But I thnk that just confirmed to me that we fitted together.

OTOH some years earlier a bf said it to me and I dumped him for being a pushy presumptuous git!

Him, on my birthday after we'd been together a couple of months. It was so romantic - he looked me straight in the eyes and said and I said it back straight away. I had been thinking it for weeks and thought it would just jump out of me instead of something else. He'd also said it to me before in his sleep (he kept on saying "je t'aime" over and over again - he's french - and when I said that to him he started blushing. This was about three weeks before he said it while awake).

I once blurted it out to a new man while we were shagging. He dumped me immediately . I have no idea why I said it as I certainly didn't.