Crush

[Pollo]

Crushes are for children and teenagers aren't they? Am living with 16 yr old daughter who is beautiful and in a stable relationship. Have good job which I really enjoy. Over 2 years ago I fell in love at first sight but he doesn't reciprocate in any way whatsoever. So, I carry on working, socialising, acting and directing with an am dram group, keeping myself fit etc etc. Am always, outwardly, up for a laugh. Why can't I forget what is a stupid crush? I am becoming obsessed with him. The answer of course is to find someone real. I meet loads of guys at and through my work, go online but no guy has shown the slightest interest in me in a very, very long time. Am very low. I have so much to appreciate in my life, why is this one missing link making me so utterly miserable?

I think that you only have to read some of the topics on here to see that having a crush is perfectly normal no matter what age you are.

Unfortunately for you the feelings towards your crush is not reciprocated, which makes the attraction seem like a forbidden fruit.

It seems from your post that you have an enjoyable life, which is a good thing. However. It is only natural to yearn for company, to be able to share experiences.

Trying to attract attention online is always a bit hit and miss as I have found from my own experience. I have signed up to an online dating website, but not actively pursued it. As I never know what to write in the first message lol.

I would always prefer to meet someone in rl.

Is there a hobby that you could take up to increase your social circle?

It's great to see that someone else is up! I am slightly confused by your post, are you lamenting the absence of male companionship in your life? or are you obsessed with this one particular crush who doesn't seem interested?

Ps - crushes are not for the young! Infact this reminds me of an article in the Time magazine in which a study found that men well into their 90's enjoy having sex and wish they could have even more. See what I mean?

SA