Delusional fool

[BreakFree]

What a tosser. Going mad because he put a very sarcastic comment to someone else,a friend of mine,on my faccebook page and I had to delete it. I got so annoyed but I got f-d from above because how dare I not let him speak his mind to my friend. Then he launches into how I love my friends more than him and that I abuse him and I am vicious and easy to hate.
Funnily enough Mr Bancroft said that would happen again and again. How right he is.
I feel like doing a Janine Butcher on him. I am so bloody angry. I just keep telling myself to bide my time bide my time and though I feel a bit more determined in my head I don't know how I can get him to leave. My life and my childrens lives does not deserve to be uprooted again because of him. Resent turns to hate again and again in my head there is nothing to like anymore because even the nice things he does are always tainted with his own brand of sarcasm snide remarks and veiled insults.

sorry Breakfree, none of this makes sense.

Can you make it a bit clearer?

Sorry JAsper I had another thread about lundy bancrofts book recently. Basically been living with a verbally abusive and controlling jealous f*ed up egotistical narcisistic P for a few years with two children and read the book after it was recommended on here. I finally saw the light and it has made me quite angry at myself as well as him. I'm sort of venting right now.
apologies

BreakFree - I read your other thread.

Yes,bide your time.Re-read Mr Bancroft over and over.Post on here.Don't do a Janine! I know that feeling,though.........

Try not to engage.

YOU ARE OK...HE IS DAMAGED AND DAMAGING.

Hold the anger,,,breathe and get through the next few weeks...you are doing well

no, please vent!
Are you still with the bad man?

Do you have an exit strategy?
Please take care x

spiteful, aren't they.

Sorry - I don't know what to say except I feel for you. Be strong xx

If you were really that horrible, he would be happy to let you go. But he isn't, is he? Ergo, it's a lie.

I just realise I nearly called the thread after you by total accident deludedfool so sorry i should probably rename it. how can i do that.

Well lst night i was up all night as I was ill and then with no sleep I asked him to take DS to school please. Yes, I said please!He was in the spare room out of his own choice anyway but he first snapped sharply at me not to talk to him like that then went into a really angry hard voiced rant about how he had to sleep in the cold spare room and why shouldn't I move in there instead of him. I also got called b-- c- etc. My DS went very quiet during his rant which went on through breakfast.
Then he told me to go to bed as if nothing had happened. A while later he came upstairs with a cup of tea as if nothing had happened

The mind boggles he is a nutjob

Breakfree - doesn't matter about name of thread. It just sums up how I feel about myself now. Mine would have done the 'cup of tea' thing a while back, then that stopped eventually, when he got fed up with me not wanting to be downtrodden anymore. But, a cup of tea makes calling you foul names in front of your ds, doesn't it! (NOT)

It's like fighting a war in your home all the time with someone who just wants to work against you all the time.

What does he say when you pull him up on him calling you names in front of your DS?

Sorry - a cup of tea makes calling you names in front of your ds 'all better'.

OP, does he cook you meals, and yet even that is under a cloud? Does he tell you how nice he is because he cooks for you........

Yes!! He does cook a lot. But thats all he does, but when he cooks he thinks that means he is excluded from any other household chores whatsover.
I am really ill now the last two days with bad flu and he is now trying to compete with me about some pain he is after getting apparently.
Which means i get no sympathy any way for being sick in the first place because of course he is even worse than me according to him.
Every thing is a moan and a rant to him. Everything is too much for him to do. Everything is a nag or a moan like if i ask him to help me with cleaning up he just sits there and then starts to moan that I'm nagging him.
If he is up with the children first in the morning which is almost exclusively rare he will not dress them until I get down to do it for him. The place would be like a bom hit it and he wouldn't have bothered to tidy up and would wait for me to come down to do it just so he could see me sighing for having to get up and clean.
I am so fed up everything is a fight and a row. I was ill yesterday and today and he has been off around the town for hours even though I am at home with the kids and feeling like crap. He nver takes care of me but yet expects me to do everything for him and even when I do do everything for him its always wrong anyway.