Scroogley ex

[mardymum]

Because of a birthday parcel that arrived a day late my DP's exW has decided that he cannot see his children over Christmas and she won't even allow him to speak to them on Christmas Day. The chances are that she will change her mind if he grovels and apologises but in the meantime it is causing him loads of stress.

Does anyone have any advice?

She sounds lovely! Is there more to this than a late present?

Can your DP apologise and try and have a civil discussion about how this will effect the DC?

The pair of them have a mass of unresolved issues including a massive amount of debt. Even though she left three years ago, neither have filed for divorce as she does not have the time and he is wary of how she would react - not seeing the DC being her weapon of choice.

The parcel was due to arrive on Friday and when it didn't she rang 3 times during the day to complain, saying that DD was devastated (DD called in the evening and was not). On Saturday it arrived and she complained. On Sunday she was still calling to complain and lay on a massive guilt trip, so DP told her where to stick it and because he raised his voice, she's not going to allow access.

Basically what will happen is that he will have to call and grovel and apologise for things that were out of his control. I'm fed up of her having the upper hand and being incredibly selfish, especially at this time of year.

I'm also a lone parent and hate dropping my DC off at their dad's but it has to be done for their sake.

Stay out of it! None of your business. You are doing more harm than good by getting involved.

I've stayed out of it for two and a half years and am sick of dealing with the aftermath of her petty attacks. I will have to explain to my dc why they aren't going to see so's dc.

Saying that you are right. I shouldn't let her get to me like this.