Excellent. Huge family bust up few days before christmas.

[redderthanred]

Fecking wonderful!!!!

We were all meant to be having xmas dinner at mums this year.

Following a small bust up on friday, which snowballed and ended up in my sister calling my mum. ( who was not involved in the argument) to say she was not coming to hers on xmas day as she didnt want to spend xmas day with people like us.

Then a few hours later she called mum again to say that she would come, but not if im there, so mum has to chose, me or her.

Fucking outrageous.

Im fuiming.

no chance of fixing this in 4 days is there.

I think what's outrageous is that you've invoved your poor mum in this spat. Any chance you can come to terms with your sister, like adults? If she won't play ball then fair enough just you go but you have a responsibility to at least try and fix this as it sounds like it's at least 50% your fault?

LOL at burying hatchet in her head...Redder, I think we have established on the tickets thread that this issue is entirely your sister's, n'est-ce pas?

You've done nothing wrong. Do you want to see your mum? Does your mum want to see you? If yes to both, then go.

Sister is behaving like a spoilt toddler so really, ignoring is the best option I think.

Good luck.

NL, there was another thread - looks like sister has something going on that's more than just a bad mood, so it isn't redder's fault - just to clarify!

Your mother doesn't have to choose. Your mother tells your sister that her plans have not changed and everyone is invited as before. If your sister chooses not to come that's her choice, but your mum is still inviting everyone.
If things are that fraught it's as well you and your sister don't meet on xmas day anyway.

Mother said no way wouild she chose and she is really really upset that sister would even think to put her in that position.

It was not 50% my fault at all. Sister started on me and i mostly refused to be drawn into it ( eventually had a go back)

Because i wouldnt engage with her, she called mum and told mum she woudlnt spent xmas with ' people like us' mum hadnt a clue what was going on!

Then because mum wont engage with her arguing, shes said mum needs to chose.

I shall of course still go to mums, that was the plan, mum is still happy with that.
Mum said if sister wants to behave that way, then that is her choice, she is still welcome xmas day. If she choses to behave this way, thats up to her.

BUT, its xmas, and thats not really what anyone wants.

But i dont think there is any reasoning about this.

:(

Look on the bright side: if she's not there, she won't be able to start anything.

i know and thats a good think.

But mum will be upset. Christmas is about being together as a family.

Though we do say, its how you are the whole year, not just on that one day, but still mum will be upset. ( as will i really)

I just want to hit my sister over the head a few times, i cant believe she actually said to mum ' you have to chose who you want to be there, redderthanred, or me'

What on earth would posses her to say such a thing.

I had no idea she disliked me so much.

do you think it would be worth sending her an email?

if i talk on the phone it will disend into chaos.

besides, im ill and sound like a velocraptor.

I responded on the other thread too.

Your sister is a dick.

An absolute todger.

Leave her to it, pandering to people like this just makes them worse IMO

let her stew.
go along the way you are meant to and enjoy it....now, where is the other thread?

Leave her to it. Your mother has responded in the right way - the only way really when handed such an ultimatum.

I had a quick look at your other thread and she is behaving appalling.

Agree with Norma - pandering to people like this does indeed make them worse.

The other thread is in chat. Something about sister being a bitch and needing a come back and needing help from the nest of vipers. Lol
Can't do a link as I'm on my phone.

I've not spoken to her. Mum is calling her about now before her boyfriend gets home to find out if she is coming Xmas day or not.
We shall see. Either way I think ill be keeping s wide birth with her now. I just can't believe her behaviour

heard any more from her?

ignore her.

if she chooses to spend christmas without you - that's up to her!

You are going to your mums, she does as she pleases, come or not, that's her choice.

don't be manipulated by her!

Its mostly sorted.

( read as burried under a pile of simmering resentment)

Mum called sister and huge row ensued.

Sister called me an said sorry in a round about way. I refused to say sorry, but said i accepted hers.

Sister told mum she would decide about xmas later and tell her, but then told me she was going.

Ho hum.