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I normally try to be positive on here but Im finding this pregnancy hard now....

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Scruffyhound · 19/12/2010 22:45

Im so upset and its all happened thses past few days. I cant stop crying. I have a DS whom is 5 and from my ex husbands relationship. I met someone else and have been with him for 3 yrs now. Im 24 weeks pregnant. I just find that my partner and my 5yr old bicker and sometimes my partner can just say silly things to my 5yr old but he does not say many positive things this is starting to piss me off. My DS was with his dad all this weekend and gave me and my partner time on our own. Im at the point of where I dont want this baby with him. I see the time my DS is with his dad as a bit of time for me and my partner to have some time to our selves. So Saturday night he was on his laptop all night then came and sat by me and gave me a cuddle for 1/2 before bed. I felt a little let down as wanted some time together. Today I was feeling tired not been well for 3 to 4 weeks and slept till 11 whihc I have not done for ages. I got up he then told me what he was going to do for the day as if I should then get dressed straight away and get to it. I said I felt a bit low we went for a walk with him and my dog. We got back and he said right what have we got to do so I needed to wrap some presents for my DS he started one whilst I got a round of toast he started getting pissed off at the wrapping so I told him to leave it I will do it. I there was other stuff to do washing putting th washing out hoovering the stairs..... he then said welll what shall I do I will wash up then. After that he went on his playstation and said nothing. I wrapped up the presents and got upset went to the bathroom and cried for ages. I then did the chores he still was on the playstation. We went to pick up my DS come back he later told my DS to stop messing around on the sofa which was fine. I told DS it was bed time so off we went and my DS ran to the bathroom and I heard partner shout stop pissing running around at me and DS . I told him to shut up and stop whinging I sorted out my DS in bed and heard Partner come up stairs and get ready for bed and ignor me we have not spoke and Im now down stairs typing htis message hes in bed. The point is I have not had any sex/attention for the last 3 1/2 months Im fed up of walking on egg shells. My ex husband used to play games all the time and that is why we left he ignored us I feel this is going the same way. I cant move back home as I have rented it out and im stuck here with no job. I have no friends here and friends I did have where I used to live have not bothered really. My mums just gone through a divorce and I have already put on her enough this year. Im so upset and dont know where to turn. I really am not enjoying this pregnancy as I feel I will have to do it all on my own again like I did with DS my partner says dont be daft Im not your ex husband yet his behaviour is going the same way and he is also getting on my nerves. can anyone please tell me or advise me on anything Sad

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Scruffyhound · 21/12/2010 16:30

Hello I can see what your saying about my partner I dont know if its me being down or me over reacting, hormones or what? I do think Partner is not sure how to deal with DS sometimes and treats him like an adult. He has no children of his own and is not sure how to handle my DS maybe? Im not making excuses and I dont like the bickering and have said drop it as your the grown up. He has had issues and my partner only saw his dad about 6 months ago hes now 30 and has never seen his dad before. He has been brought up by his step dad and his step dad is usless. He has no idea with kids and dont know if this has runbbed off on partner. Hes not nasty or spiteful just will not drop it with DS sometimes once DS has started. My partner does not understand why DS dad only sees him once every 2 weeks and harldy phones up this annoys him as he thinks DS's dad does not make enough of an effort. Partner is good with DS 80% of the time getting him ready for bed or tucking him in or playing with him sometimes they like wrestling partner is an (ex wrestler). I just dont like the bickering and the non positive attitude. My dad was like that with me when I was younger. I think Im stuck to do anything anyway for a while and want to have baby first before I decide things I need to see what happens If he treats baby different than DS I will not like that at all well in respect of a favorite! Thanks for advice and I will take it on board. I spoke to Partner yesterday and he said he did not realise he was like that so much he just thought it was messing around. He was really good with DS last night. Lets hope he keeps it up!! Smile

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