Is it just me?

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My partner has been very good about the whole pregnant thing in general. He puts up with the epic Mood Swings I have been having (and that appear to be getting worse!) and very rarely snaps back at me.
However, we haven't been together very long at all. In fact, I fell pregnant after only 3 months, and he wasn't over the moon. We don't live together yet, and work opposite shifts. I'm finding it really hard not seeing him alot, and even though I have tried to talk to him about it, telling him that apparently I need alot of attention these days, he either hasn't listened or hasn't understood. How can I bring the subject up again without sounding like some wierdo stalker bunny boiler girlfriend who has just tried to trap him into a baby he doesn't want??

Aw you poor girl.

Just invite him round to yours lots? And maybe make plans to do special things together, cook a meal together, tht sort of thing, and try not to be moody and hormonal when you do see him.

How far gone are oyu?

no advice but bumping for you

Tough...try to remind yourself that if he i sticking with you now then it's pretty guaranteed he plns on doing so into the future.

Have you discussed whether you will eventually move in together at all? Or has that not come up yet?

How far along are you with the pregnancy?

Were you using birth control? Not asking for moral reasons, asking if anything was being actively done to prevent a pregnancy. If yes, can understand his attitude a bit better.

Did he want the pregnancy to continue, or was there discussion about termination?

We were using contraception, but it just failed. I have tried inviting him around, and all I get is that he likes his own bed. But we have spoken about moving in together. It was me that wanted to wait on this front, I wanted to get Christmas out of the way.

I'm 5 and a half months gone at the moment, We have a second scan in a few days to see what we are having. I got really big really quickly, which I think had the pair of us worried, due to twins running through my family.

I do try not to be all hormonal when I'm around him, but he's a perceptive bugger, and can always see through my attempts at fake smiles and all that jazz. He's very generous with the cuddles and the "Don't be silly, I kno you can't help it!", but I just worry that if I'm annoying myself with moods, what am I doing to him??

It's a very rushed relationship so far, obviously, with the bump and stuff. We didn't even really have time to fall in love properly. I love the bones of the man, but he's not quite there yet, he has already told me. Is he simply staying with me for the sake of the baby, or does he really care? It's hard t tell sometimes

This is difficult. I'd say that tbh he is likely with you out of a sense of duty rather than love. Is that noble? I don't know. Will you be happy in the long run? Sadly, I doubt it. You need to make time for a proper discussion. It may be that he wants to be involved with the baby, but not necessarily in a relationship with you iyswim. If you;re already 5.5 months pregnant he's had a while to think about things, and I'd say if he'd wanted to move in he'd have done it by now.