Embarassing but...can having a baby make you MORE orgasmic?

[Norest]

Hi to all on the board.

I tend to lurk here and this is a name change deal as I am pretty embarassed about asking this but it has been something i've been dying to ask for ages!

Basically my question is if anyone else has noticed a significant change for the better in the feelings they get 'inside' after things have settled down after having a baby? I ask because previous to having mine I was totally utterly non orgasmic when it came to penetration.

After second DS..well about two years after give or take I suddenly became MASSIVELY orgasmic through sex. I am beginning to wonder if having a baby can change you, you know 'down there' (lol!) inside and I don't know, this sounds silly but it feels like I didnt have a G spot before and now I do!

It isn't as though I had good feelings there before and didn't orgasm, I didn't have barely ANy there before and now it's totally different.

Has anyone else exprienced this at all?

Childbirth can change you inside.

After DC1 I couldn't do doggy for years. Until after DC2 IIRC.

Now, after DC3 I massively, massively enjoy being on top, which I never did before. It's bloody amazing now.

Do you feel closer to your DH? That, of course, can improve sex.

It's had a positive impact on to ability to orgasm :)

I think its emotional as well as physical?

Hi QueeferSantaland

Well we are no longer together, i've been single for about three years now. I DID wonder whether it was something to do with how I felt about him before as I didn't fancy him much, but actually it's when im on my own too (sorry TMI) completely different to how I would feel physically a few years ago.

And to top it off I not long ago met up with an old flame and he was astounded by the difference in my reaction to years and years ago (pre-marriage). As far as I can remember he wasn;t doing much different...but it felt different!

Sorri a little TMI here!

Should possibly name change for this but what the hell, I've had a couple glasses of wine.

Before dcs I would orgasm regularly, probably 75% of the time. Post dcs, anything up to 5 times.

if only I had the energy to do it more often!!

I had 4 kids all by c-section........after my last don't know why but I seem to be able to get very close and sometimes tip over from just sex.

Before that it had been literally a once in a life time experience. SO yes I think so. As you PV changes even after sections.

Maybe you are generally more confident then, and more aware of how your own body works.

Sex gets better and better for me as I get older.

, dolce.

What dulcegusto said. Really - it's amazing. This notwithstanding, a long lie in with no DCs remains my idea of good in bed at the moment.

I think confidence is part of it, I am deffo far more into things than I used to be as i've gotten older. But I still feel a massive difference...like ok before DS's I did not even really like the feeling of anyything inside me, no matter what the circumstances, it was painful and rather boring. In the last couple of years the sensations are totally utterly different, to the point where I don't even need to go the clitoral route at all. Thats gotta be something physical surely?

BTW cannot BELIEVE I am posting about this, turns out that third glass of wine was the charm!

Sorry if TMI and I don't have first hand knowledge yet as still expecting dc1 but before I got pg was seeing a gynae for painful sex (biological problem) but once I got pg they said it would probably completely change post baby "down there" so they've stopped seeing me until I've found out if it's made it better or not. So yes according to dr it definitely can change it physically.

Am definitely relieved to read this thread though and see it actually can make a difference!

A man I am friends with told me that his wife became multi-orgasmic after children.

I, unfortunately, am yet to experience this for myself! I'd just be happy with the opportunity to have a shag!

Scar tissue if you tore or had "grazing", can be extra senstive.

Norest it was the same for me. Can't ever recall having proper shuddering orgasms before DC's. Then suddenly and happily discovered I was multi-orgasmic (5+ times)! Not sure if it was childbirth or just greater skill by me and DH that was the reason. Either way I wasn't complaining!