Failed! Interview for prospective partner...

[JingleBelleDameSansMerci]

So, today I had a conversation with someone I "sort of met" (we saw each other at a party and he tracked me down via Facebook) a little while ago. We've exchanged emails and texts and finally spoke today. Apart from the fact that his voice doesn't match his appearance (he sounds like Donald Sinden!), I felt like I was being interviewed. For example:

"Do you own your own home?"

"Do you plan to stay living at present location forever" (He lives quite a way away).

"Do you plan to have more children?"

Now, he does work in the legal profession so perhaps I am misreading his questioning technique but I very much had the impression that I was being interviewed and had failed to make it through to the next stage.

I did point out that as an aged, single parent I might not be a good catch

I know I've been out of the game for a while but is this normal these days?

You should have asked him what the salary was and how many days per year you had off!

Ugh hate those types of "dates". Have had a few myself.

So boring!

I would know immediately that I wouldn't want to meet up with him, so would give him hugely optimistic answers - I'd own my home outright, I'd have too much in savings to know what to do with - really, I could do with some advice, I'd not want any children because I wanted to make a happy home for a nice man, etc etc. I'd have him gagging for a date, but refuse him.

atswim I knew almost as soon as he started speaking that it wasn't going to happen but I wish I'd thought of your ruse.

It was the point where he'd called me on my mobile from his and then asked me to call him back on his landline that made me think "Oooh, you're tight then?" followed by him not wanting to travel to meet me unless he had to be nearby for work. Not that keen then?! I think I've had a lucky escape

So you had to call his landline from your mobile, even though he was the first to make the call? Tight Alert!

He sounds a bit old, to me. Is he much older than you? Could it have been his dad?

Jingle - are you the woman who witnessed a wedding? (It was the first thread I'd read on here!)

this reminds me a of male friend who met an internet date, and the woman got out a notebook and wrote down his answers.

whether or not you passed his test, he's definitely failed himself!

A clipboard works best, I find. And a stopwatch to time those answers - a delay indicates either a lie or a lack of spine.

atswim - yes, that was me

The interviewer (after I ended the call) said that although it was a shame we couldn't meet up before Christmas we should "keep it under review...".

Dear JingleBelle DameSansMerci

Thank you for your recent application for the post of my girlfriend. The panel very much enjoyed meeting you and felt you had some excellent qualities.

However, on this occasion, we are unable to proceed with your application.

If you would like further feedback, you are invited to speak to our HR department.

We will keep your details on file, and may contact you in the future.

Yours sincerely

Dull Legal Bloke

PS count this as a lucky escape.

Brilliant...!

what a toss-pot...

@ "We are unable to proceed with your application" - as though you were chasing him!

ShiningWit

Belle sounds like you've had a lucky escape there.

Haha! Oh lord - can you imagine the sex life you would have with this man?!

He's a lawyer. I dated a barrister and it was the same. Not definitely a bad thing but in my experience they're often egotistical (sp) control freaks

He's a lawyer. I dated a barrister and it was the same. Not definitely a bad thing but in my experience they're often egotistical (sp) control freaks

Hey Happiest - are you ok? Read some of your posts on other threads last night and I know you're having a tough time

if you were interviewing, what would you ask?

do you have pampas grass?

do you like s?

how big is your terrywogan's?

wrong use of apostrophe. cack.

If anyone ever did something like that to me, I'd say thanks, stand up, and leave. And I have for less.

That's all very admirable Alexqueue, but it was a phone call; would you have got up and left your own house

Hey! not all lawyers are the same not that i have dated one but my ex was the same he was vile.

Lucky escape.

What does being an 'aged, single parent' have to do with no being a good catch compared to a person who doesn't even go out with someone without a sworn affidavit?

Puhleeze.

I got guys like this when I was a divorced, childfree, 30-year-old who was proper drop dead.

And my answer was always, 'Were you born an asshole, or did you work at it your whole life? Either way, it worked out fine. Buh bye.'

Hello? Who needs a weirdo control freak like this?!

Lucky escape, IME.

I'd say thanks then put the receiver down. :-)