cheating scumbag husbands

[lisa34]

I am at my wits end ladies, I am currently going through a divorce, have got the decree nisi through and am waiting on court case. We have been married for 16 years, i found out that he'd been unfaithful for the last 8 years!!!! we have two DS who worship the ground he walks on!!!! I found out today that he's been having an affair with my so called best friend since November last year!!!! i am so upset that a friend could do this to me and she is married too!!!! My dilema is do i tell her husband what is going on or keep quiet??? please advise me xxxx

i would only if you know this is definatley true

Oh it's definately true, he's confided in a mutual friend

Oh dear, what an awful situation.

I must admit I would be tempted because he has a right to know what his wife has been up to. Because it was your husband she cheated with, I imagine he'll understand why you are the one telling him iykwim

Have you spoken to your 'friend'? Surely you will know by the look on her face if it's true. I would speak to her first personally.

I am not sure really.

I know someone has been behaving inappropriately with another woman but it wouldn't achieve anything to tell his wife.

If you are totally sure yes but l would confront your friend and give her the opportunity to tell her DH. Tell her she has 2 days to do it before you wil ltell him.

I trust she is no longer a friend.

Oh Crap!!so bluddy for you...speak to her...dependant upon the outcome then do as Doha says..

I have asked them both and they have both deneid it, but they have both admitted it to a mutual friend of ours!!!! Our poor mutual friend has been racked with guilt for weeks.

If you are 100% sure mutual friend is not a liar or drama queen/king - then I would tell. I would say what you know - 'I have been told this by a mutual friend, I am telling you as I think you deserve to know, I cannot be sure but I believe it to be true'.

thanks ladies, i'm gonna go to bed and sleep on it, my head is all over the place xx

Do you think you will have much to do with the husband of the friend who is seeing your exh in the future. If you will have to deal with him in life, then if it was me, somehow not sure how, I would make sure he knew the situation. She is not much of a friend, if she was single and she wanted to date your exh she should have cleared it with you first! makes it worse that she is married imho!

The question you need to ask yourself, is would you want to know if it was you? I suspect as heartbreaking as it may be, her husband would want to know what's happened.