So, I've been seeing my boyfriend for almost 3 years now. I'm 30, he's 35. We live apart, I've wanted us to move in together since a while back (18 months or so, since I've always known he was something special). He likes his space, never brings up the subject. I've tried to talk about it with him over the last year (well actually, I alternate between talking about moving in, and saying nothing, but I can only leave it about 3 weeks of not mentioning it before I have to again!). His response used to be that it was too soon (after 2 years), more recently he just says we'll move in together some day (which is unspecified and never comes)
It's ended up being the only thing I'm thinking about, and now I'm really insecure about the relationship and it all feels a bit crap. My parents/friends are always asking me when we'll move in and it makes me so upset and I seem to be crying at home all the time about the situation. It's the same with people getting engaged/having babies - it really gets me down (especially when they've been together less time than us).
We had a big fall out at the weekend about this subject which ended up with me saying I couldn't go on like this and I needed more commitment from a relationship I was in. I've hardly stopped crying since then. He's been round to talk one evening and he was very upset too, got the old "I'll change blah blah".
Should I end it? I want children, marriage etc and at 31 I don't want to be waiting for this forever. On the other hand I love him more than anything and it feels like my world is falling apart.