DH and I are on a trial separation, it's been about a month so far. We've been in relate (this time around) for a year and nothing was changing, so I suggested some space for us to not constantly live in a stressful situation and for him to grow up a little - relate lady put it very well when she said he needed to go from being like a teenager to an adult.
We have 3 dc's (DD is his stepDD) - DS'(5 and 1) taking this in their stride, DD (16) struggling a little more as she understands a lot more. Her response to whether things would work out was telling - 'that would mean that Dad would have to make an effort'.
I am much happier now as the house is calm, DS1 is much better behaved as he's not reacting subconsciously to the stress, home is a happier place to be for us. I don't really miss him - he didn't do much at all around the house so nothing really to miss, but I don't really miss his company either.
Is this just the after effect of the stress going away or is the writing on the wall? He asked me earlier if I still loved him, and I don't know tbh. How on earth am I supposed to work out what to do long term, or will it become obvious over time?
Any advice gratefully recieved