This is for those who are married to a nice guy...

[atswimtwolengths]

Do you ever introduce your single girl friends to your partner's single friends?

When was the last time you did it? How did it go?

Have to say I've been a bit miffed over the years that my married friends haven't done any matchmaking on my behalf.

(And before anyone says 'Have you asked them to?' they know I'm single, they know I've met some dodgy characters, they know the sort of man I like. I haven't said 'Please fix me up' as I'm embarrassed to admit I need help, but equally, they haven't said, 'Hey come round on Saturday, my DH's friend from work will be there, you might like him.'

Yes, but DP and I give parties sometimes and invite single friends. We've had two pairs copping off in the last 3 years - one couple married, one couple now living together.

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That's lovely of you and lucky for them! Did you guess in advance they'd get on?

sadly dh doesn't really have any friends single or otherwise.

If he did I would def try.

well i am not married but I would imagine that it hasn't crossed your friends' minds, or maybe they don't want to seem interfering/patronising
I'd ask them! why ever not

My dh is a lovely lad but his friends are not. They try to hit on me. Fuckers!

I tried but it has never worked out so far!

My DH doesnt have any single friends, not through choice, it just seems that most people are married or living together.

I have a few single girlfriends and have introduced them to people I think they might find interesting. Nothing has came of it though.

I would if there were any even vaguely suitable matches. But there never have been.

Atswim - I'm single with lots of married friends. I've heard a few friends ask their husbands if they know anybody who would be suitable for me.

Though one husband, who is a dairy farmer, has made it his life's work to find me somebody I'm a bit of a townie and have been to a few cattle shows in the last few years... Nothing has come of it, it's good fun but occcasionally I do feel like being judged as much as the cattle

Must say, I like the sound of Taghain's parties

My dh is lovely, lots of single friends ask me if he has nice, single mates at work. I don't get involved. I tend to think if my friends can't meet a man in this big world without intros they are doing something wrong. That, and the guys he works with are idiots

It's a bit like working with family, you would never have peace again, especially if things went belly up. Oh god no.

Christ, perfumed, that's harsh!

There are no single men over 30 in my workplace. All of my friends at home are married. Why am I doing something wrong if I find it hard to meet someone nice?

ditto astl
no single men at work, don't go out in eves cos of dc - if I do get a sitter it has been for training courses where others have all been women or teenagers
just don't bump into loose single men (not that I want to particularly, but I do swym)

I'd love to do some matchmaking. But sadly I don't know any single ladies, only single fellas. You could always come over to my gaff and I'll introduce you.

I wouldn't wish my DHs single friends on anybody. If he had nice ones I certainly would introduce, I love matchmaking!

And you are not doing anything wrong, I have a number of friends who are lovely single ladies. They just haven't crossed paths with the right guy yet.

Not you atswimtwolengths, was literally talking about my single friends. And I know what they are doing wrong. They get too drunk, they are all in their forties and get massively aggressive on the wine, then stand about in bars full of young things feeling resentful. I know, I have endured those nights out.

I do have a friend who took up golf lessons at the driving range and met a lovely guy. It's full of men. The downside is golf, if you find it tedious

I wonder if it isn't a bit like trying to conceive. In that, you have to do it all the time, go out, smile and chat, smile and chat, be busy and take up lots of stuff. Helping the law of averages, meeting loads of people. The good thing there is you do get to know lots of nice people.

Golf is taking it a bit too far!

And yes, I know the sort of women you mean. I hate that sort of night out. When I was 20 I didn't want people the age of my parents hanging around with hard looks on their faces.

It's really, really difficult. And the internet's made those few men there are think they're in a bloody sweet shop, too. Men you wouldn't look at once, never mind twice, have several dates a week.

Gah, just fed up tonight!

The thing is that there isn't that much to do. I'm near Liverpool and Chester, two good sized cities, yet there's very little going on if you're single.

And it would be so much easier if I knew someone else (female) in the same boat.

I don't
DH is a very nice guy but that doesn't mean he has a bunch of similar single male friends that I just haven't tapped into for my girlfriends yet.

But anyway I find match making hugely dissappointing, my single friends SAY they want relationships with nice steady guys but when you introduce them to someone who'd be lovely for them they are horrible to them and shake them off ASAP to go find the nearest ar$ehole to fall all over. The nice single men I know don't deserve that! so I leave them too it

Ah, I think I know your problem

When you said, in the op, your friends know what sort of men you like, they may know dh's mates are not the sort you describe.

The problem is having a type. Trust me, I learned this the hard way. I had a type for donkeys years, older, stocky, preferably goofy, ie. overbite/acne/some sort of distinctive feature. Stupid, but a type I went for. Until it was pointed out to me that having always gone for a type, and always been let down by said type, I ought to go against the grain and date someone who I would never normally go for.eg, an academic or blonde or whatever your dislike was. I did, and I married him

Types are not helpful. Tell your friends you don't have a type, you are willing to broaden your criteria.

DH and I introduce our single friends to each other, then back right off. If they hit it off, and choose to keep up contact, great. If not, fine too. The thing is, if they hook up, and it doesn't work, it can be really awkward for everyone. Also, our single friends tend to be very set in their ways, which might be why some of them a still single....

my DH was the first guy I dated who was opposite to my type too.

Have you time to do some volountary work? I know it sounds cliched, but it really is true, there are all sorts of wonderful men doing this work. And who wouldn't love a guy who worked with old people or animals?

I don't have a 'type' in a restricting kind of way - or I don't think I do.

I do want a man who's bright and articulate and funny and kind - sorry, but I wouldn't be interested in anyone who wasn't. That's my list, really.

Perfumed, I teach teenagers and spend a lot of my free time going through their coursework with them. I don't really want to do any more voluntary work - if I had more time, I'd spend it with my own students, who are usually from under-privileged backgrounds.

I hate to make it sound as though I'm making excuses - I'm really not.

I will just have to put my mind to this, or alternatively go round with a torch and shine it in the alleyways shouting 'Come out, come out, wherever you are!'

Not so much introduced them but DH's best friend got together with my best friend at our wedding in July 2009, she moved from Liverpool dahn sarf to be with him and now they are engaged! She already had a DD and is dsperate for another :)