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No libido

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hsjfdk · 11/12/2010 11:27

Have namechanged

I have literally no libido and it is starting to make me feel really low. DH and I haven't had sex since october - since dc were born (6 and 4) we've normally managed a couple of times a month give or take.

We had a good sex life before children - but it has dwindled to bordering on non existent; dh has tried to initiate sex over the last few months and I'm just not interested - there is literally no spark - nada. When we were on holiday over the summer though it was a different matter - we were so relaxed and life was so easy.

We do work very hard - and work different shifts so that we are rarely in bed at the same time which is a difficulty in itself. We are just too tired when we are together and tbh I'd rather go to sleep. When we are both together we are very affectionate and loving - I just have no desire to have sex :(

So - what can I do? I had a new mirena coil fitted about 3 months ago and thought it might be that - should I go and see the doctor or will they laugh at me?

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Malificence · 11/12/2010 11:57

Shift work is a sex-life killer, that's your real problem, along with general tiredness.

It sounds perfectly normal tbh, demanding jobs and small children are hard, can you pack the kids off to the grandparents for a weekend once a month or anything?

Once or twice a month sounds pretty good for you set up actually, there isn nothing wrong with your libido, you are just running on empty.

hsjfdk · 11/12/2010 15:48

Do you think it is just tiredness? I literally have no desire and am worried that its going to start impacting on our relationship.

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