Can you all comment on this email to my ex?

[Amanda1]

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def don't send it - u're better than him and better than stopping to his level, if need be go down the legal route injuctions etc - change ur phone no, and email so cut all contact that way, he'll still know where u live but if u have an injuction it might make him stop and think.

the bloke needs to really grown up big time.

Ok, send him an email along these lines:

"Dear .....
This is just to let you know that I have approached my solicitor with a copy of all the emails, texts and telephone messages you and your girlfriend have sent me. Your appearance on Saturday could also be considered threatening and stalking. All of the evidence now lies in the hands of my solicitor who will act upon it when I give the say so. Therefore if you attempt to contact me again, I will tell the solicitor to go ahead and prosecute. I can also get a restaining order put upon you. Any attempt on your part to apply for access to the baby will take into account any court orders or prosecutions made against you, I don't need to tell you that it will not look good.

I have endured a very difficult year, I have a daughter to care for and a new baby on the way. I would very much like to be left alone to continue to cope."

You should not have to endure this any longer from him. I think if you were to get the authorities involved, he would run off scared.

Thinking of you. xx

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Amanda is your ex my ex? my ex did actually stalk me my dd was between 3mths and 9mths old though and the best thing to do is get an injuction and ignore him, he doesnt have any rights until baby is born my dd is 6 now and she hasnt had allowed contact with him since she was 3 mths old.

It is scarey and intimidating, it left me feeling like i couldnt be alone, he used to text saying he was watching me and broke into my house and stole my phone, used to sit in my garden watching me, smashed windows, kicked down my fence and followed me - some men do not deserve to become fathers, having a baby is a miracle and certain people do not have the right to be involved, i have always said that if he wants contact he will have to take me to court, this is the reason i have been left alone to get on with my life because he realised trying to intimidate me wasn't going to work and he would have to take me to court which he never bothered with so until he does then he will not get access, i have since moved away from the area and have recently changed my dd's name but he does still know where my mum lives so could send solicitor paperwork there if he wanted to.

I agree with everyone just ignore him and hopefully he will go away, good luck to you and enjoy your pregnancy.

sooo glad you havent emailed him
I had to rush out so couldnt post

dont bother stooping to his level

go to CAB and see what they suggest

Look after yourself - like you said, you have your baby to think about so you dont need stress

what an #rse he sounds

good luck

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Well done for not sending it Amanda - and you sound so much better than a couple of weeks ago! See how things go but get some free legal advice asap so you are prepared and ready if you need it. Lovely to hear you are now concentrating on the most important thing - looking forward to the arrival of your dd.

Definitely send something like Rhubarb's email if he continues to harrass you, otherwise ignore the ar$e.

think if you are going to send anything, (and i know the temptation) dont let any emotion seep into it, that will just show him you ARE bothered iyswim?

think non-insulting, indifferent and professional. much better imo for making someone feel an inch tall.