Who can settle an arguement????

[brownbunny]

My DH and i argue all the time about this can any one tell me that i'm right! On a night out if a woman excepts a drink brought for her by a man thats ok it's just a drink! But if a man ie my DH buys a woman a drink it's not ok because he obviously is after something else! Does any one agree or am i completely out of order on this one!

Well, to your argument I would say that if you have no intention of being chatted up by the bloke who is offering to buy you a drink, then you shouldn't really accept it.

A bloke is not wrong in wanting to buy a girl a drink, it's a sign that he's interested in her and wants to get to know her (not always just after sex). So I think it unfair if the girl were to accept and then walk away.

Or to look at it the other way round, if you fancied a bloke and offered to buy him a drink, you'd be a bit miffed if he said "Yeah thanks! But I'm not interested in you!"

Sometimes I do think men get a bit of a raw deal when it comes to chatting up women, they can never get it right!

even if before you accept the drink you make him aware of your marital status!if he still wants to buy then is that ok?

Well, then you put him in an awkward position! He would feel rude if he withdrew his offer, so because he has offered he feels obliged to buy you a drink. Ok for you, but leaves him out of pocket and if the next 5 women also said similar, he'd be really pissed off. Surely better just to say "Thanks, but no thanks!"

point taken!!!

So no more freebies for you then!

We'll see!!!!

Sorry, slightly baffled. You're allowed to accept a drink from a stranger, but your dh isn't allowed to buy one for a stranger? What's the diff?

FWIW, I wouldn't do either, although will readily accept any drink offered to me by a friend, either male or female

On the other hand, when I moved to Mexico in 93 I was told in no uncertain terms not to accept a drink off a bloke as it was tantamout to agreeing to have sex with him. To the point where, if something bad had then happened, the police would have said "so? You accepted a drink from him".

Now, I'm not suggesting that that is right, or that we should live by those standards in the UK, just pointing out cultural differences. But I would not accept a drink from a stranger in this country, as I think it sends out the wrong message regardless of what message you think you are sending, and I wouldn't buy one either. Nor would I expect dh to be buying drinks for random women, or accepting them. What is sauce (or wine) for the goose is sauce (or wine) for the gander.

NO body worry any longer!! we've got that sorted now i'm going to ask for every bodies ideas for recipies for home made jam! it'll be an easier and more wifely and motherly topic to discuss!

Weren't having a dig at you by the way, just trying to look at it from all sides

Thanks! thats ok know i'm right in my own way!(always am!) So does DH!{wink]

i agree with you brownbunny.