I'm trying to find some help for a very good friend of mine.
Her dh recently and unexpectedly walked out on her and her 2 dc's. It came as a complete surprise and shock, not only to her, but to all her family and friends, including her inlaws. They always appeared to be a really close couple. Although I suspected for a while he was quite controlling, she seemed happy.
Atm he is paying the bills and the mortgage on the their house, which she still lives in with the children. (Guilt money, I feel)
He has become very difficult however, about when she can have money. Saying she can have x amount, but will have to wait until a certain date. Leaving her really struggling, to buy food, things the children need for school etc. Recently he refused to let her have £20 to pay towards a boiler repair (she had no money left)He said, he felt it wasn't really necessary!
She works part time, but doesn't earn alot.
He won't talk to to her properley and seems to be trying to confuse her convince her SHE is going mad and being unreasonable.
He's told her she's really lucky he pays what he does and that CSA would give her a fraction of the amount. This is something she's looked into and she thinks it's true.
She spoke to a solicitor, who said her and her dh would have to sort out the money between them. They are due to start some sort of mediation, but I'm not sure if that can be any help practically.
He has a dc from a previous marriage also.
He is now 'lodging' 
with another woman.
My poor friend is heartbroken and wants to gain some sort of control of the situation, but doesn't know where to start and hasn't got the energy to keep fighting with him.
How can I help her?
Where can she go for some help?
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