Chritmas that wonderful time of year.... would be if I was doing it!

[Scruffyhound]

OK its that time of year where its time to decide what to do and many of us can dread. I dont normally as I have done christmas dinner for about 14 yrs now and I dont mind and quite enjoy having people around who I WANT to see. This year for the first time ever (or so it seems) we have been invited to DP's mums. My mum is coming on her own to us for chirstmas as she has just got divorced. I thought a nice christmas me DP, DS and mum. Im also 6 months pregnant. So DP's mum invited all of us around in the end which is nice but they have two dogs jack russels one of them has bitten my son and I went nuts about it as she is a pain in the arse and would not leave him alone. Everyone in the house DP's mum, step dad, and his sister seemed disapionted but then let the little shitty dog behave like a shit. I and my DS lived in this house for 1 1/2 yrs till I had to move out it did my head in. And yes the dog was a big factor. Also I find DP's mum a but strange. We had a works christmas do Saturday just gone and his Step dad owns the company and my DP is a manger there. It was a big doo. DP's mum hates one of the women at the place and thinks her husband is having an affair with her. So there was a big argument and I ended up sitting with DP's mum this issue has been going on for as long as i can remember. They have a weird relationship and to be honest I dont want to go around for chirstmas day my mum said oh there will be enough of us there to watch the dog and she want to meet DP's mum, but I feel like no one is listening. I dont want to go first because the dog will be after my son all morning and it will be weird and I will be waiting for something to kick off. I just want to enjoy my chirstmas with my DS before Child number 2 comes along. How the hell to I say no?! I have already said look I dont want to go because of the stupid shitty dog. But DP thinks it will be ok as our dog who is a lovley loopey lurcher gets on with this dog and might distract her from my son. I really think not. Some people visit the house and she bites their feet and the stupid owners are like oh just ignor it. WTF!!! Any dog that bites should be sorted out and tought not to do this. If it was a big dog doing it then that would be a no no but because she is little and a princess its ok? What the hell!! I love animals and love anything we have snakes fish and a dog I have kept ferrets and all sorts but I want to kill this dog but its not her fault, its the stupid owners!!! What do I do thought of faking not feeling well?!

Ahhhhh, sounds just like christmas. Have two separate christmasses. Don't mean make it sound like your Christmas doesn't matter.. because it does. Its just we all have to do things we don't want to sometimes, it does sound like a bit of a nightmare there, but am sure you made of stronger stuff and can deal with a dog with a bad attitude! take along a mild sedative to spike likely offenders' after dinner eggnog (specially made by you of course(wink)) and sit back and enjoy not having to cook for a change. Then plan a the family day you wanted for christmas eve or boxing day with a couple of stocking fillers to open , just who you want. Thats just what i'd do being faced the task of being faced with dodgy family duties. not ideal but it is only a date in the calendar. Christmas starts in November now apparently. :D good luck!

Thanks! I like the htought of a seditive! Might use them for everyone to make them chill out! My mum left me and dad just before christmas (I lived with her later on) they used to argue and also my dad was sectioned near christmas I suppose Im selfish in many ways was just looking forward to a day of normal stuff. Also I will not have my son next year as me and the Ex husband have come to an arrangement we will have our DS every ohter chiristmas. But my baby is due April so would love a normal chirstmas with my DS before number 2 comes along. As for the dog yep a seditive sounds great! What a good idea I could buy them some treats and smuggle it in there!!! He he I like it!!! I know people have to do things they dont like I hear some awful stories about chirstmas. And people having to tolerate other people whom they dont want there. I think this happens at wedding as well!! I hear people saygin dont sit them with them or there will be trouble. I got married abroad to the ex husband it sorted out that little problem!! Maybe I shouldo f had aseditive for my wedding day he he

I wouldn't go anywhere where there was a dog that had bit my child.

I have seen a toddler severly injured after a dog attack by a small terrier.

You are mad to take that risk IMO

Now your thinking!Take a large tranquiliser dart gun instead for the dog. problem solved. :0) he he , juuuust kidding.....ish. Like the spiked treats idea.request he be locked in another room though for sure. I feel for you though, xmas at my x's used to be like a harry enfield sketch. like a disturbing mixture of 'the slobs' and the 'scousers'. I spent new year there once too, and when the countdown began by the dj (incidently dressed in a pink glitter jacket and bad wig) we held hands to the person next to us sing auld lang syne, only to discover they had nicked my grandmothers wedding band off my finger! Then later went home to discover x's nephew had been on the dregs from the glasses round the labour club, so upon being doing this by well oiled family, he promptly put a brick through the window cos 'yer all fookin tossers' !! ... :/ police were called by family, and well...you get the picture. laughable now though. Just view it as if it were a comedy sketch, I still do that now in some strange situations, but careful with that as it can make you the target for inappropriate giggling. I hope it all goes well though, it may surprise you never know. :)

p.s it does sound like a year from hell, wish you the best for the new year. sorry for no other pearls of wisdom on this matter. not that shooting your partners dog and drugging the family really could be classed as wisdom...bit shit really. sorry.

If the owners are so completely oblivious to the issue, then anything would be fair game, imho. Maybe slip it a laxative-that might get their attention.

Focus on your mom while you are there, leave valuables at home (same issues with my sil's family-a very disturbed Chihauhau).

I hope you have peaceful and happy holidays and good luck for next year.

Would a polite "No thank you, DS will want to stay home and play with his new toys" and explain you don't have him for Christmas next year?