What you you and your partner do of an evening?

[Crazymama]

Me and DP seem to be growing apart, and spend most evenings doing seperate activities once the kids are in bed (typically him watching TV and me on the net or working).

We dont like the same on TV, so watching TV together is pretty much out.

To top it off, we sleep in seperate rooms because of his snoring. I hate this, and would welcome any suggestions how I can sleep through it!

I am also very pregnant (so no bedroom suggestions please!) Probably the hormones are making me feel worse, but I just feel we are growing apart, I feel completely alone and I just dont know how to make it better.

Any suggestions?

DH works evenings 5x/week. When we're together we mostly watch TV, play games, or hire a film.

Snuggle up on the sofa and watch tv/chat.

Dh and I used to be the same but we agreed to compromise and sit together and watch one anothers programmes and when one of us are using the computer to sit with each other then too.

How about making plans for a meal out one night so you both have something to look forward to together.

I totally symapthise crazymama. We're going through a similar thing. I think you need to get baby sitters and go out, say, once a fortnight to maintain your relationship.

Well last night dp made me sit through 'Alexander' which I found to be chronic bore but I suspect it's payback for the amount of soaps he has to watch. Occasionally we go out for a meal together. We used to do martial arts together but he teaches it and I stopped going (I should take it up again)

We are often not sitting together, one on the laptop and one in front of tv. We are constantly talking to each other though and we laugh a lot.

Am I married to you HD???

If you called me common, this morning, then yes! LOL

Nah, I sort of grunted and hissed "You'd better not wake the baby"

I'm such a loving wife.

WE sit in and cook together/watch TV, chat about our days...before DS's bedtime we often go for a family walk (weather/light/time permitting, prob not anymore!) we then bathe DS together and get him ready for bed. My Dh likes us to do everything together and hates to be alone...it took me quite a while to get used to this!
I am with you on the snoring, I am 17 wks pg and have been running into the spare room to sleep due to DH's snoring!

I was already feeding dh at that time, flamebat!

Ahhh - ours had been crying all night, and I wanted her to sleep longer but he has a habit of thundering round before work and waking her. She slept through it though, so all is good

My dw does that. DD woke at 5.50 and sang to herself in her cot.

dh plays pc games and i watch tv. hardly watched tv togther.

How about turning off the TV and the computer, cooking a nice meal, sitting down together to eat and chat?

Quite often I'm in the office working (I'm freelance)

We always eat dinner together though and we are usually pottering in the kitchen at some point doing kids packed lunches for the next day, tidying up, ironing shirts for next day.

If I'm not working we usually just watch TV together but sometimes we make an effort to switch it off and go up to bed to read, chat, cuddle.

We watch tv together or chat or im on my laptop hes on his pc and we msn! (how sad are we!).

No suggestions im afraid. Talking is always good though.

Throw the tv out (and the computer come to think of it!)

Neither really conducive to family harmony.We cook,drink wine,play with the children and do the million and one things needed to keep our life on track.

Bloody exhausting!

Crazymama take action now to secure some babysitting help, it gets worse with 2 kids. DP is the most important relationship you have. I myself tried to make a weekly "date night" appointment recently, to try to rescue the situation, but dh is no longer interested in my company enough to go through the hassle and expense of a babysitter. We are well and truly indifferent to each other now after 15 years of marriage.

Moondog-well I guess you still have a computer! Does anyone think it would really work though to throw out the mind-absorbing gadgets?

What if you simply cannot get a babysitter, ever. At all. (a sore topic right now)

The only time dh and I have together is about 15 minutes after he gets home to the dinner on the table, this is our sacred Family Dinner that is supposed to be so marvellous so I kill myself to make it nutritious, delicious and at a time we can all sit down together. This is wolfed down, any attempts at conversation with dh (usually about kids or breakages of the day) are marred by the kids both CONSTANTLY interrupting and rowing with each other. Once they are in bed, if I am lucky by 8:30, I just want to crawl into bed myself, and either watch tv, read, UNINTERRUPTED, or go to sleep. The whole house is usually a shambles and I am too tired to clean it up. HE just wants to continue maintaining his pre-kid exercise program; if he is at home he is working on the PC trying to get a promotion. He never watches tv, or reads except for work. His contribution to the housework this week has been to carry one basket of ironed clothes upstairs (leaving them on the bed for me to put away), and to put a single item of food in the fridge after dinner once (he liked it and wants to eat the leftovers today!)).

He doesn't sleep in a separate room but may as well.

and at dinner time he watches news as without it he cant digest his food.

eat our tea in fron of the TV, then depending what's on TV I sneak upstairs to the computer & Dh watches Lord of the rings etc etc. Sad isn't it ? really must get a life...