Hiya all,
Please can someone give me some advice because my ex husband is beginning to drive me crazy!
We split 3 years ago after being together for 15 years and have 3 daughters together.
Prior to breaking up, he was found guilty of criminal damage (scratching cars), was caught on cctv stealing from his works till, stole money from my own bank account twice, withdrew all the money from our joint account and I had no money to pay the mortgage, secretly opened a bank account and went £1000 overdrawn in 2 weeks....... The list is endless....
Since we split Ive had nothing but stress from him. The divorce took nearly 2 years to process, as he was on legal aid and sent continous letters accusing me of anything and everything.
He will not discuss anything on the telephone RE his daughters without getting verbally aggressive & swearing. We now only communicate via text to raise my 3 girls. He speaks negatively about me to my girls and so does his family. He used to see his girls every wed & alternate weekends but this has now changed to 2 nights a month. Sometimes he cancels seeing them at the last minute esp if he finds out that i have plans.
I have moved on & now engaged to a loving & gentle man and we have a baby together. He acts like a real father to the girls and thinks the world of them.
I feel my girls are being continously hurt by my ex but dont know what to do. My oldest girl is beginning to really dislike him, my other 2 are confused and get very upset by him but say they still want to see him as he is their dad.
Everytime they visit, he shouts at them and gets stressed, he also keeps telling them he is very poorly with stress (yet he manages to attend music festivals and concerts with friends and play on his xbox). the only time he is nice to them is when he has a girlfriend and then he changes personality
I'm sick of my girls being hurt and him using them to get at me. I've tried so many times to sort it but nothing works and now its really stressful.
Sorry rant over!!