Has anyone just started blanking you for no reason?

[poshsinglemum]

There is one mum in my community who has just started blanking me. I have no idea why. We weren't best mates; we just got on ok. OK; we havn't socialised for a while but am I being unreasonable to feel a bit hurt?

Sometimes i feel alone in my community.

I think the only thing to do is confront her. Catch her on her own, let her blank you, then say "Have I done something to upset you? I've noticed you are ignoring me and I wondered why that was."

I did this to a woman at work and it completely unnerved her. She couldn't deny it because she'd only just done it. It turned out that she had misinterpreted something I'd said and got into a huff.

Now we are in the situation where she wants to be friends, but I feel I've seen another side of her and don't like it. I don't ignore her, but won't let myself get close.

Oh by the way, one thing I realised afterwards was that this woman (at work) always had someone she wasn't talking to. I guess it was just my turn. That was something that really put me off her - it seemed so childish.

Oh yes! When dd2 was in reception at school she made a friend. They had tea at each other's houses for a while and I was on friendly speaking terms with the parents.

Suddenly they (both mum and dad) started to pretend they hadn't seen me if we passed in the playground or on the street. I had absolutely no idea why and still don't, 7 years on

This happened shortly after I'd read Mummy Laid an Egg to dd. I wonder if this could have been the reason?

TBH I don't think I have the guts to confront her. i don't think I can be bothered tbh. If she's going to be like that it's no graet loss is it? May get a bit uncomfortable if our kids go to the same school etc.

this has happened to me a lot. and i have never ever started ignoring someone! if i have ever had a problem with someone i have always tried to discuss it, and it's crap when someone does not have the courage to do the same.

but the fact is that the reason is often not that you might have been offensive in any way, but that somehow you are perceived as a threat.

i also totally know what you mean about feeling isolated. the world can be a big and hostile place when you are alone with your child / children. i get excluded from events, i have been on the receiving end of shit treatment that i do not believe would have been the case if i was not a single woman, and occasionally people have made it their mission to ostracise me.

It's happened to me too. My DD and her DS were close at pre-school, but when our children moved to the school nursery, she just blanked me. I suspect that she wanted to be part of another crowd of mums and also wanted her DS to play with their children. But I was (and remain) friendly with some of these women, so I don't really understand it - it never has been an 'us and them' situation.

It was a bit awkward at first, especially as we both helped out in the classroom, but now our children are in different classes, I hardly ever see her.

If I did do something to offend her, I still have no idea what it was!

People are so odd sometimes. It's happened to me too in the past. If I'm certain I've not done anything I just let them get on with it. I figure if they're that childish, they aren't a loss anyway.

The weird thing is it's always more effort to actively ignore someone than it is to just say hi and keep walking.

yes, it happened to me, i used to chat to a woman at toddler group.

then her DD started at my DD's nursery.

Since then she totally blanks me, even if I say hello several times.

As I only say hello I can only assume, sadly, that the reason she ignores me now is that DD regressed since I last saw her and now has obvious SN. i really have done and said nothing offensive to her or anyone at nursery.