Want to leave shouty swearing DH...not sure how to go about it.

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Basically, I want to know if I can rent a private property, pay deposit etc from savings (which will leave me completely skint), then go to social to help pay rent from then on IYSWIM?
Am SAHM with 3 young DC's and I would appreciate advice regarding this question.

If you are on Income Support or low income then yes you can get help with rent. You have to have (I think) below a certain amount savings

Have a look on entitled to

In the circs would telling him to Fuck Off be out of order

Yes btw to your question. But remember he would be expected to make contributions to pay for the children too.

Hi. If you get set up in a new home and then find yourself with no or a low income you can claim for Housing Benefit. There is a good site called 'entitled to' if you do a google search for it, and you can put in your details and it will tell you what things you can claim. You can also get child tax credits if you are a lone prent and not working.

I moved into a private rented house when I was pregnant with my then partner and a while later we claimed for housing benefit as our income went down, and when he left I was able to claim for things such as tax credits and for a short time Income Support when I was between jobs.

If you are not working and your youngest is under 7 you can claim Income Support.

As far as I am aware the only thing that might hinder you would be if you wanted to go to housing as a homeless person, if you have voluntarily left the home you live in now and then ask them to house you they can say no, as they might say you have intentionally made yourself homeless.

However this does not sound like your situation.

I would suggest going onto your local councils website for more local info and making an appointment with one of their benefits advisors, the other option is to go to Citizens Advice Bureau.

It IS doable if this is your decision, I have Housing Benefit to pay some of my rent as I work part time and I live in private rented.

I hope this helps.

Are you ok emotionally? Is this something you have wanted to do for a while? Have you talked to your husband about leaving, and what support he might be able to give you and the children? Or are you unable to do so right now?

Don't forget once you are set up in your new place you can contact the CSA for things such as child support.

Am not on any income so social would pay, yes?
Thing is, I am scared that if I do make this jump, find somewhere to rent, pay deposit up front move in then find out social won't pay, we will be up the creek without a paddle. What then? Don't want to have to move back in with him then.

Also, don't want to go into local housing as it takes too long to get accepted, waiting list etc, and I have pretty much made up my mind to start looking for somewher now to move into in January. Local council housing would take too long and this might lead me to losing my nerve and staying.

If you have no income then you will deff get some money from the social (being income support or job seekers if your youngst dc is under 7) and will be able to claim housing bebeift.
Are you safe atm?

DH not physically violent to me, but is verbally abusive to DC's, especially DS1 aged 8.
He shouts and swears at them (not me) constantly. He thinks this is good parental discipline. I am sick of it now and want out for me and DCs.

So you know you'll get help garrow. Get your deposit registered and safe. Things will be a little unstable for a while but you will watch your your DC's blossom once they're out of the regime.

Good luck.

The waiting lists ARE very long for social housing, but if you move to private rented you WILL get the money towards rent, you will get income support and you will get things such as free prescriptions for yourself, even be able to apply for free hot dinners for the kids.

The good thing about our welfare state is that it DOES look after people in your position who really need it, and you will be able to claim. Also from recently benefits are no longer affected by how much child support you get from the ex partner. So you will be able to claim what you can from him over and above the benefits you receive, and you will also know you do not have to rely on that payment since you will have your benefits.

You will not have benefits like HB or IS stopped for any reason other than a change of circumstances, they cannot just sotp them out of the blue without a good reason. You will be able to use them to get by for yourself and the children.

I am really sorry your husband is abusive, you are a strong woman and a good mother to remove your children from such a horrible atmosphere.

Full respect to you and I wish you the best of luck.

Thanks for your help everyone. Just so scared that it will go wrong.

There'll be a few hurdles but it won't go wrong.

You're in a strong position because you have enough money for a deposit, etc. Look at Gumtree (some are dodgy, mind) and local housing agents but register with the council too.

You and your kids will flourish in the long run.

It WON'T go wrong!