feeling spooked after 2 nice dates

[Dipso]

Help...have just met someone new (online), a couple of really nice dates, 3rd one planned for next week. The level of texting/calling has been fine, he hasn't been over-doing it until today. I've had 3 missed calls (and from his landline which doesn't show the number)and a voicemail, as well as a couple of texts which I replied to (these were nice and normal).

I'm feeling a bit spooked and don't know whether to give him the benefit of the doubt. Do I ignore it, say something, still go on the date? Bit disappointed, everything up till now us been pretty-well text-book, he has nice manners and seemed very respectful I always seem to get it wrong in the early stages of meeting someone but determined not to this time. Won't be ignoring any red flags (or even pink ones).

Forgive me but how do you know the missed calls were from him?

It could have been anything if it was witheld - unless he said in the texts, tried calling 3 times today - or something?

What did the voicemail say? Maybe he just rang 3 times and couldn't work up the nerve to leave a message until the fourth? Does your phone go to voicemail after a short time (e.g. 6 rings), because if I ring someone and that happens then I usually ring back first rather than leaving a message in case their phone was at the bottom of their bag/on the other side of the house and they had to find it first - perhaps he did this (rang twice in case you couldn't get to phone) then left it until a bit later and tried again, and on the fourth time thought "Oh no, she's going to think I'm mental, I'd better leave a message this time!"

Maybe I'm being paranoid. He left a voicemail after the second call I didn't pick up and within 20 mins had tried calling again. I know it's been him all 3 times because it doesn't say "private number" like it normally does, it just says "call" (and his number has shown up as that before today and I've picked up so know it's him).

Am probably getting my knickers in a twist over nothing but he's just sent me a text saying "I've emailed you some pictures from home". I went to look at them with extreme trepidation because I thought they might be of him in his bedroom in a state of undress....whereas they were in fact some beautiful photos of the place he grew up abroad and obviously refers to as "home" Maybe I'm the nutter.

Dipso, relax.
My DH does this, when he wants to speak to me he will call until he gets me. Not weird. Just shows perseverance

Thanks reggie but you're married, I've only met this guy twice! Met nutters in the past, too much too soon and all that but maybe this one#s different.

I don't think you're being a nutter :) just cautious which isn't a bad thing.

I don't think this is anything to worry about though. Not unless the voicemail said something worrying!

It might be possible that he has a phone that has terrible reception. I'm not in the UK, but in the States I have an iPhone that CONSTANTLY drops calls. Often when I call people, I have to call them a few times to get a good connection. I.e. even if it goes to voicemail, I can tell by how garbled the message sounds that if I were to leave a message it would not be able to be understood. Therefore I might have to call a few times in order to leave a good one. That said, he ought to have told you that...

He was like that when we were dating too. keen
anything else about him worrying you?

Dipso you need to relax, a few missed calls and a few texts doesn't scream nutter.

Maybe as it's saturday he's had a few beers so is more loose with the contact, or maybe he just had an urge to talk to you.

Go on the date next week. As long as he doesn't start calling and texting a hundred times a day I wouldn't panick too much yet.

No, nothing else reggie I'll go on the date,
and see if my radar picks up on anything.

Give him another date, sounds like he's been fine up until now.

Just exercise your usual caution until youve seen a bit more of him.

Good luck!