Sum total of my life 2010.........

[Antalya1]

Failed long term relationship...redundancy....no money.....recent relationship guy after a couple of months of being 'Mr Wonderful' goes off radar without any explanation....depression hits again....all friends in relationships...lonely Christmas and New Year...roll on 2011...can it get any worse?

No. It was a bad year for you. But that does not mean 2011 will also be bad.

It will be better.

and its not all about relationships and everyone else seeming like they are happy- they probably arent and cant wait to see the back of their dh/dp!
I am single again, quite happily though, after weird 2mth thing with one bloke who also went off the radar recently!
Plus serious money problems that i have never had before.

YOu're not alone but it can get you down, i know. Can you see friends/family over xmas and New Year?

Why is your Christmas going to be lonely (apart from being really fed up because of singledom status)?

It's been a bleak couple of weeks, not so much the single thing, I have been by myself for ten years in the past and was absolutley fine. I stupidly came off AD's thinking that I was OK, clearly I'm not. It's the time of year that normally so much is going on and this year is going to be so different, probably for alot of others on here also!

Hello Antalya I havent seen your posts much lately and I am sorry things arent so good atm.

I am one year in to xh leaving and beginning to seriously adore being single . Like you the vast majority of my friends are married but as was mentioned a lot of them are really quite unhappy but resigned to it as though there was no alternative. I was a bit like that so I dont mean it in a judgemental way.

My view is 2011 is a whole clean page ,I have to move (part of divorce) and find a job at 44 having been a SAHM for a long time and I choose to view it as opportunity and an injection of life into my life that was going stale very very slowly. Now I am learning how to be an "I" again instead of a "we" and its brilliant !

Come on Antalya I have read enough of you in the past to know theres lots of spark in you , dont cave into self pity about Christmas its actually only 3 days when alls said and done and do what I did and invite yourself somewhere .

Plus if you need to go back on ADs then get to the docs pronto.

Thanks gettingeasier you are right, it is self pity...and not normally like me at all, just struggled over the last couple of weeks..time to give myself an almightly kick-up the back-side and be positive again ..oh and AD's

Listen I totally understand but just try and look at things from a different perspective , I am aware that it sounds and isnt always easy but give it a go !

Keep posting

Its never a good idea to come off the ADs when youre not ready! i speak from experience and i dont think that i will EVER be off the damn things.

I know, everytime you think that you're ok and fine to come off them, the smallest thing can send you straights back. I've been on and off the for years, but for the first time, I agree I can't see myself coming off the anytime soon! Depression runs in my family and I do woner if that has something to do with it?

i think it can deffo run in families; although both secretive about it, i know that my mother and father had both suffered with it. Funnily enough, none of my 4 brothers or sisters have had it at all/very badly.
I guess i drew the short straw there..