Can I ask what you think about a relationship which was very very "feisty" on both sides in its early days, (for feisty read pushing, shoving,(by the male) bashing on the head and face(by the female)). It culminated in the man drunkenly attacking his girlfriend, also drunk, leaving her with a bump on the head. She took him to court over it and I think they then split up for some time but a few years later got back together and remain together. They now have two children.
She has come to me saying they got in a row a few weeks ago and, in her own words, she goaded and goaded, and he snapped, pushed her up against a wall and put his hands round her throat for a minute or less. She was scared. He then left. They "sorted it out" and things are apparently back to normal.
Hmm why am I asking, and what am I asking?? It's been niggling me. Obviously this isn't right, he tried to strangle her!
Should I be encouraging her to leave or should I leave well alone?? FWIW they seem very happy to outsiders and close friends and they are both very lively and loud. What effect will all this have on the children-can I ask anyone with experience? Actually, it's really bothering me, am I making too big a thing of it? She assures me that there's been no violence on either side for years and they love each other etc etc. I don't think she would lie to me, I just think she needed to tell someone. Any ideas? Sorry to go on.