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Worried about my sister

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malinkey · 02/12/2010 22:42

My sister has had an on again/off again relationship with Mr X over the last year. He let her down time and time again, changing plans at the last minute, standing her up and not answering phone calls. I haven't met him yet (mainly to do with his changing plans all the time!) but his behaviour sounded erratic and apparently he had a lot going on in his life and possibly had depression. I have been shocked about how much she put up with (not like her) and it's been horrible listening to her when she's been really upset about it all.

A few months ago she decided enough was enough and told him never to contact her again.

Anyway, somehow he has wangled his way back into her life and it appears like it is very much back on. She told me she's thinking of moving in with him and apparently he is a "changed man". She also said that he seems to need to speak to her several times a day and appears anxious if he doesn't.

This is ringing warning bells with me. Could I be wrong?

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fruitshootsandheaves · 02/12/2010 22:45

sounds like my sister...his name isn't Steve is it?

Anyway I think you will have to leave her to sort it out for herself. Hard I know but chances are she won't listen if she loves him and you might end up falling out with her

malinkey · 02/12/2010 22:53

OMG. S'pose it is a common name Shock

Yes, I know there's nothing I can do, I'm just feeling really uncomfortable about it - every time I speak to her and she sounds so upbeat I just don't know what to say.

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GraceAwayInAManger · 02/12/2010 23:25

Erratic - moody - anxious - clingy.
Sounds like a winner Xmas Hmm

She seems to be well In Love atm, so there's little chance of her seeing straight just now. I think I would say I was concerned about the moodiness/clinginess, though, also saying that you're here for her regardless, etc. This is so she won't feel she has to protect your illusions when it all goes pear-shaped.

malinkey · 02/12/2010 23:39

I know! Doesn't sound great does it?

I feel like she's almost trying to prove to me how changed he is because I'm obviously coming across as being rather cynical. Yes, I will try and state my concerns and just let her know that I'm here.

Is there any way this could turn out well? Just see a long painful journey ahead myself.

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