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Need legal advice.Any mn lawyers about?

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pink4ever · 02/12/2010 22:29

I need some legal advice with regards to my financial position if I were to end my marriage. The house is in husbands name only.We have children. I have always been a full time mum. He works,pays all bills etc. The only money I have is the cb(dh doesnt give me any money unless I ask and then I get £20 or such).
I need to know what would happen if we split up.Could I stay in house even tho it is in his name? Would he have to keep paying mortgage,bills or maintenance for the children?.
I need to state that my dh has no respect for the fact I am a sahm and has always implied that if we split up I would get nothing off him?.
Can anyone advise please?

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clpsmum · 02/12/2010 22:37

Bump.
Interested as in similar situation

BaggyAgy · 03/12/2010 10:47

pink4ever only a face to face lawyer having full disclosure of all the relevant financial facts can really help you. However, simply because the house is in his name does not mean you as his wife, have no entitlement. Did he have the house before he met you? How long have you been married? You may need an lawyer(try Citzens Advice if you want a free service) to register your interest so that your H can not sell the house/release the equity, and hide the proceeds the moment he knows you are considering divorce. Don't consent to a remortgage!!! You need to quietly and secretly find out all you can about the family finances. Photocopy bank statements, pay slips, mortgage documents, utility bills etc. Of course he will be required to maintain his children and they will need a home. Can he afford to make mortgage payments and fund a life for himself elsewhere? If he can afford to rent elsewhere, a court may decide that is the correct solution. You may be permitted to keep the home until your youngest child is 18 or leaves full-time education. At which point you may have to sell it and share the equity with your H. This may leave enough to rehouse you, or it may not. Make sure you get a share of your H's pension fund, as you probably have no pension saving as you are a SAHM. You will need pension provision eventually. Some women trade a pension share against equity in the home. Only you and your lawyer know what is best in your circumstances. Your H will be required to provide full financial disclosure, but be aware that some H's are less than frank. Some men sense a divorce coming and start hiding assets. The more you know, the better placed you are. Your H will probably ask you not to waste money on lawyers, and to resolve matters yourself. This would enable him to remain in full control of you and of the family funds. Don't fall for it, or for mediation. It is unlikely that a court will leave you without sufficient funds to house yourself and your children and to support them. I hope this helps.

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