Advice please (other than "give it time")

[sunshineriver]

Hmm, where to start - basically met really great guy, really great - fell in love with him really fast and really truely believed that he'd be the one for me - loved my son (18mths when we met) and it was like we'd finally met "our match" - that person who just knows and who everything feels right with

BUT - he wanted to go and live in Australia and had planned to go this year.

After loads of heart ache, he left in September this year after us being together for 15 months. After 6 weeks of him being away, he tells me that he wants to stay there forever and doesn't think that its fair for us to stay together.

I have to stay here, I've just started a new business and I have my family - and my son to think about - he's just a free spirit over there just looking after himself, living in shared accomodation, living the dream...

So, I'm now single (again) and missing him so much!! I really honestly thought that we'd always be together, that he'd have a year in Oz and then come back and that everything would be okay.

Thing is, I'm on 24 and I can only foresee now - I'm just loooking for other opinions, especially from people that have had a bit more life experience than me - as to what I should do, and how on earth to get over him :(

Thanks for reading

Hey Dogfish :)

I couldn't have gone with him - he needed to go and be himself and do this for him. Meeting me was never in his plan, and though we did agree to try and work through it, I always knew that he didn't really have a place for us in his new life - I was just holding onto hope.

I'm just getting my life on track over here - nice house, child will start school next January and I've just started a new business. Having my son, I can't get a working visa in Australia - not to mention that I don't really want to live there anyway - my home is here, and I'm quite happy living somewhere where it is freezing cold for 80% of the year and my family is all around me, especially while I'm bringing my son up - Australia is his dream, not mine.

I'm also a single mum and I'm skint, so can't afford to even go and visit like I'd planned to anyway.

He's always wanted to go to Oz, and it's been girlfriends in the past that have put him off, when it got round to my turn, I had no say and he either went now, before he turns 30 in a couple of years, or ends up regretting it.

BUT, he's gone - and there's nothing that I can do to change that, or to bring him back. He wants to stay there, and I guess will be at least be applying to extend his visa and then after that apply for residency...