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How soon after meeting him did you know that you were in love with dh/dp?

29 replies

Banks · 02/12/2010 14:24

How long did it take you to say it to each other? Who said it first?

I'm just curious what your experiences have been!

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loujay · 02/12/2010 14:26

Love at first sight for me (YES REALLY!!).........took a long time to say it as we were both with other people at the time..........just knew he was the one for me Grin
Why OP??

KatieScarlett2833 · 02/12/2010 14:27

I said it after 3 weeks, he asked me to marry him 3 days later, we got married 10 months after meeting and have been together 17 years tomorrow.

SheWillBeLoved · 02/12/2010 14:27

With my ex, I said it first after an intense 4 months I think. He said 'Aww, I know, thanks' Hmm cocksplash.

MrsTedHughes · 02/12/2010 14:27

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defineme · 02/12/2010 14:28

About 6 months-slow dawning. He said it first after about 3 months. I really really liked him straight away, but it took longer for me to realise it was forever. I accepted his marriage proposal after 7 months!

TheUnmentioned · 02/12/2010 14:29

I knew we were meant to be together after one night (of talking!), he told me he loved me after 3 weeks, I didnt reply Blush, we got engaged after 9 months and have been together 10 years tomorrow Grin

SaorAlba · 02/12/2010 14:29

I first met him something like 7 years before we got together, and at that stage a relationship wasn't on the cards at all.

After we got together though I knew it was special pretty quickly, and after going away on holiday together 3 months later I was pretty certain he was 'the one'.

VagosaurusRex · 02/12/2010 15:27

I was with someone else when I met my DH. We met at a dinner with loads of people there, carried on to a bar afterwards, and the next morning I woke up feeling as if I'd been on a date. I lost my apetite and knew something was happening.

I saw him again 4 days later, after texting a bit, and he'd brought a ring with him. It was very quick, but a total no brainer. He moved in a month after that, we got married 10 months later.

Have been married now for 3 years with one DD, and I love him with all my heart and soul.

Marchpane · 02/12/2010 15:32

About 18 months after we met. I didn't fancy him at all and I was with someone else Blush

He told me he loved me on our first offical date. By accident. I told him 3 days later. We got engaged 3 months after that and married the following year.

We've been married nearly 3 and a half years.

Cyb · 02/12/2010 15:33

On our second date when he held my hand on the way to the pub quiz

Which he won, spectactularly

uptheduffnotuptheduff · 02/12/2010 16:56

we'd had a coffee date I paid for, but didn't let him kiss me or anything, he then went away with work for 3 weeks - que, 1-2 hour long phone calls during which time the feelings were growing, then first time I saw him on his return/we walked to the cinema I knew then - held his hand, had my head in his shoulder & knew I was safe totally. pretty much still the same now. even in the house he makes me feel all safe & protected (in a good way).

He says for him it was when I wouldn't let him kiss me. lol.

BertieBotts · 02/12/2010 17:15

I guess it depends on how you define "met". I was at school with my bf so I guess you could say we met in 1999, however we didn't really speak to each other until around year 10 which would have been 2002/2003.

Then we worked together for a bit after school. Then we lost touch for a few years. Got back into contact in August this year, just as friends - we realised we liked each other in that way about a month to a month and a half later, didn't start dating for another two weeks or so.

So, depending on your definition, the first time bf said "I love you" was either...

11 years
8 years
3 months
2 months or
2 weeks

...after we "met". I was around 2 weeks later. (Very odd for me to but liberating!) I do love him but don't think I'm in love with him yet though, we've only been going out 6 weeks. I think that will take me a lot longer. I've changed my definition of it I think. Looking back I think I was only ever in love with one of my exes, though I said/thought it about all of them at the time. I keep catching myself in moments where I think I could be getting there though, so I think it will come. Just happy to wait and see TBH :)

TruthSweet · 02/12/2010 17:15

About 3 weeks after meeting we went on our first date (a Thursday) by Saturday he'd told me he loved me, by the Sunday I'd told him I loved him. We were married two 1/2 years after meeting and now have 3 DDS 6 years later and we are still in love Grin

allgonebellyup · 02/12/2010 19:36

MrsTedHughes - nine years?
REally?

How did you cope with that?

mollyroger · 02/12/2010 19:40

I swear it was love at first sight. we have been married 15 years, together for 18.
I was living with someone else when I met him, I went home and cried at the thought of not seeing now-dh again. 6 months later, we got together and I ditched Mr Wrong.

mollyroger · 02/12/2010 19:41

i can't remember when I furst said I love you. but on our first date, I just wanted to touch him. On our second date, I wanted to him.

HobnobHeaven · 02/12/2010 19:49

The day I met him. We'd been talking/emailing/texting for 2 weeks beforehand, so I knew we'd get on like a house on fire on our first date. But when I saw him, and he really shyly held my hand, I knew I'd found my husband.

3 years & a DS later, still know he's the one. He's far from perfect, but he suits me just fine. (thankfully DH is a true romantic too, and felt the same - it's never good if these things are one sided)

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ItalianLady · 02/12/2010 20:18

I knew after 2 months. He told me after 5 months but I knew he loved me before he told me. I knew it in the way he treated me. We have been together nearly 15 years now Smile.

hogshead · 02/12/2010 20:23

well tbh it was a good few years Grin

I was introduced to my now DH through a group who were friends of my ex's brother. When me and the ex parted company the ex behaved appallingly to his brother and they have never spoken from that day to this but I gained `custody' of this group of friends and we are all reasonably friendly to this day.

DH asked me out no less than 6 times after I split with the ex - I turned him down loads cause I didnt think i was ready for a new relationship but having snogged him when drunk on numerous occasions I decided to take him up on his offer and the rest (as they say) is history.

It took both of us several months to realise that it wasnt going to be a flash in pan and we have been together ever since.

BitOfFun · 02/12/2010 20:53

Same night. I think it was mutually declared after about three weeks.

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LittleWhiteSnowWolf · 02/12/2010 23:20

About a month. He says it was love at first sight Hmm
But he knew I was wary of menfolk, having been burned and he knew I wasn't going to say the L word first. Took him 3 months to say it to me because he was afraid he would frighten me away.

He didnt of course. Smile

julienoshoes · 03/12/2010 10:34

Love at first sight here too, but said it after about 3 months I think, we were both with someone else when we met, so lots to sort out.

Still here, still madly in love, 31 years later.

BarbaraWindsor · 03/12/2010 14:07

The first time I spoke to him. That was ten years ago, and I still love him very much Xmas Smile