Hi everyone, I desperately need advice about a tricky situation. I've been with dp for 6 years and we have a nearly 4 year old. Years and years ago (when I was single) I briefly dated a man whom I'd known for years. Although I was extremely attracted to him, nothing came of it and I was the one to say no to any more dates because I just didn't feel we'd 'clicked'. Over the past couple of years, I've reguarly seen this man out and about while with friends (I live in a small town where everybody knows everybody else and go to the same pubs.)
The problem is that whenever I see this man, I feel extremely attracted to him, and what makes it worse is that while chatting, he's told me that he still thinks alot of me and would love to go out again. He's a very outgoing sort of person and has the gift of the gab and basically makes me feel very flattered. I've told him that I'm with someone and although I'm flattered that he's asked me out, I'm now in a situation where its not possible. Anyway, this happened on Saturday night, and it left me feeling quite upset that I am actually attracted to him.
Don't get me wrong - I'm a very loyal person and do appreciate and love my dp. He is a perfect partner and father in many ways and loves me dearly and I love him. I don't feel any 'love' for this other man, as to be honest, he's quite an arrogant person, but think its purely a physical attraction. I have enough sense to know I have too much to lose to do anything about this and know in myself that I wouldn't. I guess I just need reassurance that to fancy someone else quite alot is normal when you're supposed to love your partner dearly. I also think that I'm flattered because deep down, I know this other man wanted to continue dating me in the first place, and years with a post child figure he still fancies me! Please could somebody help put my mind at rest and tell me I'm not a bad person.