I don't fancy him anymore because he's TATT, dull and annoying

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1. He works all the time, for the family, but he never spends any time with his family.

1. He's tired all the time because he doesn't sleep when he should/has the opportunity.

1. We never speak because of his workload.

(BoF doesn't your hair go crunchy if you don't use silicone on it? I find the curl creme great as an occasional styling cream but my hair will quickly feel all dry and damaged doing similar to your technique)

hi there, can't help on the hair I'm afraid (mines dead straight), but I have a similar dh to yours.

A word of warning - my dh moved jobs to be closer to home, and he's exactly the same as he was when he commuted - there wasn't this big improvement that he promised (but there was a big reduction in income of course).His attitude to work means that he is always busy, always feeling that there is too much to do and he is the only person who can do it. He is home slightly earlier, but under sufferance and I sometimes feel resentful because I feel he keeps the worst for me - I only see him tired/stressed/resentful.

ICould, I am in Wimbledon Park! DH works in the city (now paranoid DH will see this thread) because obviously I stopped reading out bits to him once I started posting. A bit too close to our situation for comfort.

PS: I love the whole hair aspect of the thread.

The hair bit did make me smile last night. I NEED to try it now though.

Beattiebow - I know exactly what you mean, and I know that if DP did get a job closer to home there would be an initial honeymoon period where he would work like a normal person, and then he'd get involved in the job, see areas that he could improve and end up in the same situation.

It sounds like our partners are very similar creatures. He doesn't work in IT does he?

Consultancy (whatever that means).

DP keeps explaining his job to me. When other people ask what he does I mumble something about IT. I'm very far from an IT novice, but his job is just weird...

he's trying to be better recently. His biggest problem is that he is unable to separate work from home life (working from home doesn't help much!) and I sometimes have to point out that the bad mood he's been in at work isn't warranted now he's home (even though he's only walked 10 feet)

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Hi OP, hope things get better for you soon. Just wanted to say re: contraception you sound the same as me- hormones a no-no, don't like the way some work (ie coil), condoms are RUBBISH. Have you ever tried using a diaphragm? It's old fashioned and a bit of a faff, but for us ticks all the other boxes. HTH.