what to call in-laws

[knowallnora]

What do you call your in-laws, do you find it easy to say Mum and Dad or do you use their names.

Their names.

They aren't my mum and dad.

I have never met anyone who calls their in-laws Mum and Dad. I call them by their first names.

I think calling your inlaws Mum and Dad is a generational thing, a regional thing and a class thing. None of the above apply to me so I use their names.

I know people who say Mum and Dad though.

First names.
I think initially they wanted me to call them Mum and Dad (unfortunately Yuno they do have silly class issues) but I wasn't going there.
Cards to both DH & I are signed Mum (FIL died some years ago) but only to me are signed X.
I love my MIL and she is an important support to me. She's cared for me through 2 c-sections and the loss of both my parents.
To hear my sister calling her own MIL Mum is excruciating as her MIL is a nasty mean spirited old woman who sets her children against one another for fun and doesn't deserve the name at all.

Tweedledum & Tweedledee Names

Their names

I call them by their names, except when I forget and call them Mum and Dad by accident, because dh and his sister are with us and calling them that, and frankly they're far more like parents to me than my own are. Hmm, perhaps I should just adopt them ...

First names only please

Not my parents, would be offensive to mine to call virtual strangers by the same names

Always call her Mrs......... and that will never change

My MIL signs cards, if they are to both me and dh, as Mum (hername). It is very sweet.

The reason I ask is because she asked me to call her mum, but I feel uncomfortable saying that, but now feel equally uncomfortable saying her name(mad I know) so find myself not calling her anything, just try to make eye contact before adressing her IYKWIM.

Before the DC's I called them by their names, after the DC's I call them Nanna and Grandad (surname).

By their names. Despite us being together for 12 years and married for 4, DH cannot bring himself to call my parents anything other than Mr & Mrs Mejon.

yes I found it much easier after children as I can now say ask nanny etc ........... wish I could find it easier just to say her name but it feel wrong somehow,

I call mine by their first names, let's call them Jim and Joan. When DH (let's call him Steve) and I receive joint cards from them they sign them exactly and always this way:

'To disappearhere and our son (i.e. Steve)

Yours,

Mum (i.e. Joan) and Dad (i.e. Jim)'

What's with 'our son' and all the i.e. bullshit?! I know who you all are!

Also, they are a pair of twats.

My MIL signs everything M as it stands for Mary and Mum. She would very much like me to call her Mum but since my own mum died I have felt very uncomfortable with the idea.

So, I dont call them anything as its awkward, if I need to address them I say Granny or Grandad is a fake jokey way :o

I call them by their names, mum and dad would just feel wrong. they are fine with that.

Definitely wouldn't call them mum and dad, in fact my mum got really upset when we got married cos she thought I was going to start calling MIL mum . I assumed this was a generational thing too and assured her that there was no way I would.

I assume you do mean to her face btw?

After 12yrs I've gone from calling them, let's pretend, Barry and Sue (deffo not their real names) to having nicknames for them (as they do for me), so er they're now Bazzy and Soupy. Except they're not. It sort of evolved.

We're very close though. I speak to MIL every day and see them a couple of times a week. I see them more than dh sees them tbh. And I love them very much. But they're never going to be called mum and dad. I have a mum and dad already.

I call MIL and FIL by their first names. Never mum and dad. I have a mum and had a dad. I don't even call my stepdad dad. But I don't think I've ever said their name to them like 'hello sue' IYKWIM it's just 'hello'

But DP's gran gets called gran by me and also by DP sisters fiancé. I've no grandparents left and she loves it that she's got two more 'grandchildren'. We all get treated the same.

Oh how odd that we all have this problem, I thought it was just me.

I CANNOT call them mum and dad, would just feel wrong wrong wrong.

I used their names, then grandma and grandpa when the dcs came along but moving back towards their names again as the dcs get older. After 10+ years it's beginning to feel ok!

First names

FiL phoned up a few days after my father had died and said 'hello it's dad' can I speak to MrSH. Felt a bit cross at the time but more determined to use their first names.

first names

tho my parents called their inlaws mum and dad

maybe an older generation thing?

I agree, definately think its a generation thing, but can't think why I cant just say their names. Gets really embarassing sometimes when I want to say something and the kids are not around to go thru. Its gone on too long now tho so cant see how it will change