I am in a bit of a moral dilemma. I have a son who is six months old. My husband's family live over four hundred miles away and because of their profession/income do not come and visit. We try to visit them as often as we can but this can often be a hassle with a baby. His sister (who is eighteen months younger than us) lives with his Mum and Dad. She has had problems with drugs and been to prison more than once but we believed she was clean. We have now found out that she has been back on drugs (heroin) for at least the last year and in the past couple of weeks has been arrested for selling drugs. So that she wouldn't go back to prison whilst she awaits trial, her parents have allowed her to return to live at their house. She is also now on a methadone program to withdraw. Since I found out I was pregnant my husband has wanted to spend his son's first Christmas with his family. He had spent a year and a half planning it. After discovering what his sister has been up to, we have agreed not to go down there until she has her hearing. I am disgusted with her and it makes me sick to my stomach that she has held and kissed my son whilst taking this filthy substance. I don't want her anywhere near my son, not now or the near future. As you can imagine my husband is bitterly disappointed this and this has lead to some arguments. He feels that his parents are being punished for something his sister has done and keeps asking "when ever will we visit then?". I don't think there is any way to rationalise this and feel that his parents have to understand how serious this is. When she was in prison before her mother would show me her letters as if she was in summer camp. They keep ringing and asking us to come down but I am particularly not happy with her in the house. We usually stay in her room and I have in the past found drug items in there which she had hid and forgotten about. My son is now at the crawling stage. Am I doing the right thing sticking to my guns or will my husband resent me?