Urgent advice needed plz Seperated but he won't move out

[Jennywren101]

Could do with some advice as cracked today. Me and my husband are seperating, we bother have debt including the joint one of the mortgage, he won't move out because I cheated on him. I have been miserable for months long before the seperation and before i cheated on him and feel trapped and suffocated. Been trying to resolves ways to move on especially for our two boys involved ages 4 and 1. He is refusing to move out, refuses 2 alternate nights on the couch, makes my life hel with comments and digs all the time. Any suggestion I make gets thrown back me. I can't register for a council property until the house is sold. Tried private renting but because it's based soley on my income (work part time) and receive benefits which are based on me and my husbands combined income it's not enough! Yet as soon as I was a lone parent i would be able to afford it with my income and benefits!!! So I'm stuck until the house sells! I have no family members that have room for me and 2 children and they are staying to stick it out as it's half my house but I feel like I am going mad with the mental torture I receive daily and my eldest son is starting to be affected now and gets upset. If anyone is going through something similiar I would appreciate your advice as at the moment I feel so lost and depressed

Have you had legal advice? Is your H refusing to sell the house or is it just that the house is up for sale but no one's bought it yet?

If he's had any legal advice at all it's very likely he's been told to stay put until child residency and contact has been discussed and agreed. What are his objections to moving out? And how do you see care for the DCs working out in the future?

And the reason he should move out rather than you is...?
Men can be the resident parent as well. I'm not sure why you think he should move out to be honest. It's his home.

Unless there has been violence, it is difficult to force someone out of his/her home. The most likely result of court action will be a forced sale but that may take some time.

Agree with Rebecca.

Do your council have ren assistance scheme?

Also, don't hold out for a council place, you won't even be a priority at this point.

Why cant you register for a council property - everyone is entitled to register, you just wont be a priority at the moment. But if you register now, at least when you do become a priority, you will have the benefit of extended queue time.

Whereabouts do you live OP?

Yes register with council anyway.

Have got an appointment to see a solicitor on thursday so will see what they say. The house has just gone up for sale but the atmosphere is so awful, i have tried private renting but found out today with working part time I'd need a guarantor and don't have anyone who meets the requirements (17k a year and home owner, my parents r retired)and working out benefits it would be really tight so I am trapped! I want him 2 move out for the sake of our children, my eldest is starting to play up and is tearful over silly things that really arn't him. I have explained this but he is just angry with me at the moment to answer some questions I live in walsall west midlands and I can't move out so I would like him to so that the kids arn't so affected, I work reduced my hours to be part time to be able to care for the kids, he earned more so agreed it was best this way.