Hello, my DH and I had become very separate over time, he being totally absorbed in his work. I embarked on an emotional affair with a married acquaintance, which was ultimately doomed and with hindsight, that was a good thing.
This led DH and I to have "crisis talks" and to try and find some kind of strategy for "rapprochement".
We are just getting our two DC off our hands so one idea was to try and take time out together when we can. We have been on days out locally, doing a little shopping and browsing in bookshops, having lunch and teas and coffees, which is nice.
We both undertake to look out for events we both might like, so we've been to some literary festival events e.g. Will Self, Peter Hain - so we can have a lively discussion afterwards.
DH has taken some extra days off work just so we can chill a bit around the house, read the papers at leisure, do a few little jobs and relax a little.
We have also agreed, instead of using our usual decorators, to work together to "makeover" our bedroom in the hope that collaborating and co-operating in a household project might be fun?
Which reminds me we have been to see a few comedy shows together and to the theatre in London for a birthday treat for DH.
It is helping, slowly but surely. Simple pleasures, I would say!
I have also booked him in for a facial(!!) as a treat and we plan a day out Xmas shopping together with lunch and wine included.
We did have some ground to make up. I had told him I had been attracted to someone else (nothing really happened, mind) and I think he realised I had been feeling neglected and that he had better pull his socks up.
For my part, I had come very close to being physically unfaithful and I have seen that I was dicing with danger and stood to lose a lot if not everything.
Anyway, just a few random ideas! Hope they might help?