would this annoy you?

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We live in a small end terrace and applied for permission to add a small room at the back. We have 2 boys and another on the way. One of the neighbours,who is in my group of friends but has chosen not to be as close to me as she once was, said nothing to me about this. The next time I met the friends she wasn't there and one of them said- I hear you're getting a conservatory. X couldn't believe it. I feel really uncomfortable now and not sure what to think.

Huh? I don't get what the problem is

Me either??

Nor me - is it that she couldnt believe you didnt mention it before going for planning and then the first thing they knew about it was the planning application?

Sorry- this person has not spoken to me about it, but gone behind my back and discussed it with others.

But if you applied for planning permission, it's in the public domain. How come you want to keep it secret?

No it wouldn't

lenny

I don't understand why you're upset.

Do you think no one ever talks about you when you're not there?

We were going to tell the kids etc once we were sure we could afford it and could go ahead.

Im just annoyed I suppose. I thought it was a bit off and think I might feel better if someone understood where Im coming from.

I still don't see why this would annoy you

eh?

People talk, fact.

Why should she talk to you about it and not others? If she has problems then using the sounding board of friends is a good idea and if she doesn't then it is just a normal conversation between frineds about something that is happening.

Sounds to me like you have a problem with her (possibly because she has taken a step back from you?) and this is the way it is coming out IYSWIM.

There really is nothing to be annoyed about OP.

Your 'friend' is allowed to discuss things like planning applications.

Did you tell the friend you didn't want others to know you were planning to build a conservatory?

And if so, um...why?

wtf? I think your username is quite apt.

Your OP isn't that clear. Do you mean your other friends let you know your neighbour was unhappy about your extension, and you feel uncomfortable because you would have expected her to say so to your face?