Husband left 6 weeks ago - I love him and want him back - any advice?

[welshbuster]

Hi everyone
Desperately looking for advise. My husband came home from work 6 weeks ago and dropped the bombshell he doesn't love me and moved to his mate's house. We have been married 8 years and together 16 years, This was enexpected to say the least as even the day before I was getting texts saying I love you. he has spoken to me and comes round to see our son but just says he wants to move on. He promised our son he is not seeing anyone else and I believe this. I still have access to his bank account and phone bills as he doesm't want me cut off in that way.
I have OCD and have hidden things from him in the past - post and we have ended up with mortgage arrearm he didn't find out till too late and we almost lost the house. He has been working abroad for 5 months and we were on skype every night for hours and he was constantly asking for sexy and naked pics of me by text, so I don't understand why he says he doesn't love me. 4 weeks before he left he started a new job which is extremely long hours and also about 1.5 hours travel from home this has meant he is coming home and going straight to be ready to be up again very early the next morning O jnow this has made him very stressed.
Last night I was stupid to get our son to text him but he figured it was me and threatened never to speal to me again, I'm just trying anything to get him to come home cos I love him so much I just don't know what to do. please help

You can't make him come back but you can sit him down and make him have an honest conversation about why he has left. That may mean that you are able to move forward a little - at the moment you must be horribly confused and full of self-doubt. He owes you a proper explanation (and probably a lot else besides).

I'm afraid I think there is more to this than you are telling. How does hiding the post end up in severe mortgage arrears? The mortgage payment almost always comes off a direct debit, and if it didn't, I am sure he would have noticed all that extra money sitting in his bank account.

I am really sorry to hear you feel so bad.

However there is still a piece of the jigsaw missing here and you have to sit down with your husband and have an open and honest chat as lalaonglegs said.

People just don't leave for no reason and there has been a change in his life recently with a new job. There is a reason somewhere and it has to be found.

Please do not get your son involved in this at all. It is hard enough for him to adjust to this new life without being thrust into the centre of communications between yourself and your husband.

If your husband is threatening never to speak to you again it suggests to me that he is being defensive about something which means he has something to protect away from you. Think on that for a little while...

There is more too this for sure.........maybe he has just had enough?

You have OCD fine, but you have been hiding post, and nearly lost the house? I presume you have been deceitful and caused massive debt/money issues.

You also tried to manipulate him by sending a text (content unknown) to him pretending to be your child or you told the child what to say .......