Narcissistic Rage

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How do you cope with it?

I am shortly going to be in the position where I will be provoking this in my ExP. It is entirely unavoidable and I need to stand up to him for ds sake.

What do you tell yourself about the narcissists rage and being on the receiving end of it?

ExP is vindictive and bitter.

getting a grip, I have not watched much of i'm a celeb, and from the bits I have seen and read about her dd, and from seeing her in the past, she screams narc to me!

Confusing, something I had not realised until I researched it and let it sink in, the reason why they hate you so much when they leave is that they have used up you as a primary source of supply!

They hate the primary source of supply as they rely on it like a drug and hate that, to disengage they hate you more and more as someone who is drinking will hate the drink, as sadly and this is the hard bit that was all you ever were to them, an inaminate object to use, it is heartbreaking, then surprising and then as you say cynical, then you feel sorry for them in a I am not going near you with a barge pole way, you poor empty, destructive fool!

you poor empty, destructive fool

That's my Xmas list sorted, then. I'm having it printed on t-shirts

In case anyone needs to read more about this, here's a link to the most recent of the NPD threads ... and I'm sorry you're experiencing the confusion of life "through the looking glass".

LOL GRACE! who's getting xmas gifts then?

confusing....

google 'idealise-devalue-discard'...

you will probably find your narc there

xxx

have read through thread, so sorry that you are facing this with your ExP.I have got to the point with the person in my life that I just treat her the same as I would a toddler, narcisism is what toddlers and babies are all about.
So I plan and respond the same way.

For your ExP I would state clearly what is and is not going to happen ny is over a weekend, is there a way of ds seeing him the following weekend instead?

Good luck, stand back and watch the fireworks and know that you are in a better place for being his Ex as opposed to his current. partner.

Grace, that link to the npd threads you have posted, does it work for others or just not work for me?

worked for me
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/1033653-NPD-Abusive-partner-Recovery-thread

the latest one works, thanks x

kk :) Like your festive namechange!

I was intrigued with others doing it and thought I would give it a go, thanks, like yours too x

Yes, I think treating them as you would a 2 year old is the way forward.

Of course you don't get the visciousness from a 2 year old. It still shocks me now after over 50 years of dealing with these freaks just how nasty they can be. It takes your breath away sometimes.

As I said recently on another thread, at least when you have been exposed to these 'people' from an early age, and survived, there is nothing on earth that can ever scare you again.