I NEVER want to speak or see my Ex again

[NerdyFace]

A bit of Background.

My Ex-Fiancee and I were engaged, everything was happy, we were working brilliantly I thought.
We were both working and saving towards a house deposit, essentially everything was happy and I was in first non-abusive relationship of my life!

Our split came when during some bickering about something inconsequential, she completely lost it and started sobbing and confessed to having been sleeping with at least 4 different people the entire time she had been working in her office. (Essentially the entire lenght of our time together of 3 years)

We broke up, she moved out and then a few weeks later tried to convince me to come back to her saying she had changed and would never do anything like this again.

while that was going on, one of the people she was sleeping with from work, got hold of my number from her and phoned me, essentially exposing her "I've Changed" nonsense as the shit it was and she was still sleeping with those 4 guys seperatley and sometimes together (I had to try really, REALLY hard not to be sick at that bit of information..)

I told her no, If she wanted we could be friends but never anything more, she got VERY upset by this and responsed by Posting rather intimate details and pictures of us on her facebook wall.

On that I told her no contact, ever again, I neither wanted to speak to or see her ever again, cue more screaming and crying.

She has been in touch today though (Hence the soul searching and bearing it all for people too see.) She believes that since she was able to GET me my job, half of all the savings in my account belong too her, and until she gets the money she is due I will never be rid of her.

sigh of relief That is everything! Comments and Advice are welcome, although I just needed to get this off my chest before I lept off a bridge!

[NerdyFace]

Hopefully, even my shit experiences haven't stopped me wanting to be a Parent!

Infact Marriage+Kids is "Goal No.1" on my list of things to achieve!

[LittleMissHissyFit]

We are lovely. Honest.

We don't take crap, and we don't put up with people that treat others badly. Regardless of gender. We don't do fluffy banners, moderation or text speak. We do Friday night threads, drunk threads and general silly bugger threads.

We do have blokes on here, quite a few, and we have lots of non-parents.

If you enjoy being here, stick around.

young man...

[LittleMissHissyFit]

Plenty of time Nerdy, enjoy life first, get an educashun...

[old enough to be your mum emoticon]

[prettyfly1]

Nerdy well done on getting clean and sorted. Get a solicitors letter asap and get on with your life. Having a child and family should maybe not be goal number one right now - perhaps getting yourself into a place where you can be a great man, then a great partner in a healthy relationship and then a great father, would be the best way to go (pretty feels like old lady)......

[StuffingGoldBrass]

Nerdy: It's not uncommon for people who have had a shitty time to yearn for marriage'n'parenthood - when actually it's the last thing you should be looking for unless and until you are sorted out in yourself, like yourself and are in fact capable of living comfortably and happily on your own.
Desperation for commitment and babies is dangerous as it blinds you to the faults in people who seem to be offering it to you, because people who are desperate and clingy or very vulnerable are offputting to nice people but an absolute magnet to abusive ones. Hence your going from one nutjob to another.
YOu are very young, there is plenty of time to work out whether you actually do want to marry and breed - and shitloads of time in which to make sure that, if this is what you want, you choose someone nice to do it with.

[Georgiesgirl]

Sounds legit

[waitingforgodot]

Eh???

[goddessofsmallthings]

ZOMBIE THREAD ALERT

Someone whose posts have been deleted was on a mission in the early hours of this morning to disrupt this board by dredging up outdated threads and this is one of many they retrieved from the archives.

[watchingthedetectives]

When these old one appear I want an update - 5 years down the line I hope he has got his degree and is having a great time!

[blindsider]

Bloody hell you read some of these stories and realise what a dull old life you have led - Orgies, Heroin, i seem to have missed out on it all...;-)

[MojitoMollie]

me too - i would love an update!!