Anyone who went off sex while breastfeeding...

[ChocolateMoose]

How long did it take after you'd stopped before you felt more normal? Please let me know when my sex drive might return from its extended holiday, and at what point I should start panicking that it's gone for good.

Mine has also vanished, probably sunning itself on the beach somewhere with yours whilst my period looks on, eating an ice cream. Happy about the period, less so about the sex drive - and I suspect they're probably linked. 8 months and counting...

About 4-5 weeks after I stopped with both of them.

well it took me a year, and I did not breastfeed

8 months after stopping, TicketToHull? Bleugh. I was hoping more like 4-5 weeks was usual.

I EBF but mine usually came back a bit about 3-4 months post periods

Whoops the perils of failing basic reading skills responding late at night; I missed the bit about stopping breastfeeding. Still going so consider my answer null and void.

Mini hijack: anyone felt the urge to make the beast with two backs before they stopped bfing? [clutching at straws]

Um.

I did feel like it the other morning to my alarm surprise. But DS (15 weeks and EBF) woke up before we got anywhere.

Other than that have had one shag since he was born and that was after half a bottle of fizzy wine

My sex-drive was very low when I was breastfeeding, my theory is that because strictly speaking I was fertile (no periods) I had no desire. My boobs had a new priority. When we did have sex I didn't enjoy my H touching them.

I breastfed my first for about 13 months, 2nd DC was conceived the month after I stopped and it started all over again!

Mine seems to just be creeping back dc is now 8mth and ive just had my first period! Not sure that dh seems to make of my new found drive lol.

I have 3under4 so have been preg or BF for what seem like forever therefore i think we have only had sex to concieve the children (which was done very quickly) and then i could prob count on one hand the other time since dd1

Sorry, meant to say INfertile.

It's just Mother Nature I'm sure.

Libido did reappear one evening a couple of months ago - as in completely back to normal. Not making this up, I was completely taken aback. And DH didn't know what had hit him . But then it went away again without trace . NO idea what was going on there.

Am 6 months in and dd just started solids. Absolutely don't want dh near my boobs but occasional very slight frisson would suggest it is returning. We've managed to dtd a few times since she was born but I'd rather have had cake tbh.

I was overcome by urges when DD was around a week old - there was no question of any action due to my ravaged undercarriage so poor DP was subjected to some blow jobs. Hope he made the most of it because I fed DS until he was over 2 and no sex drive until a month or two after he weaned, despite having periods from 8 months. DD's only 2 months, it could be another long dry spell!

DS2 is 8 months, but still feeding 6ish times a day and 2 x a night. However, in the last week or so, he's cut back on milk feeds and eating with gusto now (he's BLW).

No sign of period yet.

Waiting for my mojo to return too .

Stopped breastfeeding at 6/7 months and it more or less coincided with all three of my children sleeping through (the first one already did by then) - proper rest and no child wanting my boobs the whole time, being able to wear a bra that didn't resemble a medical truss and having some semblance of my pre-baby body again... yeah, libido returned pretty fast .

My libido returned slowly as my DS was weaning. It was really strong and I guess fully back to normal after he had been fully weaned for 3-4 months. Wow. That sounds a long time. But it went fast and was slowly coming back along the way. Mine is always strongest around ovulation, and weak at other times.

Yep I just eat cakes now instead of .... sex.