still cant move on!!! feel so sad :(

[missylea]

I got a restraining order against my ex in july as our relationship had been so abusive and finally i had enough when he tried to strangle me. Why havent I moved on???? We have a baby together and he is taking me through courts for everything. I feel like an emotional wreck most of the time and Im doing the things people say to do, getting out keeping busy, having a new hobby but it constantly consumes me. I found out he now is in a relationship although he says its not serious and wants me back but I will not go there again even though it so hard to as I still feel I love him. I am even getting support from womens aid and I know all the things but its putting it into practice. Why cant I do it? Why am I holding onto the dream of him cause its not him? I feel so impulsive sometimes and just wanna ring him but obviously I cant due to the restraining order and to be honest there isnt anything he could say to stop the hurting. Any advice on how to just let go and stop the hurting. Im just feel really sad that the dream and the expectations I had of him are gone :(

be gentle with yourself. Even if the relationship was abusive, it's natural to mourn the end of it and what you hoped it would be. It will be hard to feel like you can move on when you still have things like court cases that are ongoing. I'm sorry, I don't have any good advice. Somethings just take time. Just wanted you to know I read your post. Do you have any family that can support you? You've been incredibly strong so far, you should feel proud of that.

The cliche Time's a healer is a cliche because it's true. It just takes time. You are doing on the right things, and well done for getting away from him. You need to keep forging ahead and trust that it will get better, and one day it will just stop being painful.

We come into the world not knowing these men, we totally know how to live without them, we maybe just forgot.

Wish you luck for a happier future, you deserve it.

all the right things, sorry.

sending you a hug,,,it will get better with time,take your time,no need to rush things,you don't need to beletting go if you are not ready,it hurts,and its gonna hurt for a long time especially when you hear he is dating again,be kind to yourself,and he almost killed you,is that the person you want in your life?not at all since you are not togther,go through it all,if you want to cry,you do it,if you want to drink go for it but not too much:o ,,remind yourself that you are special and someone is looking for you,you are missing from someone's life and their life is not a good one till they find you,,,

Thank you for all your kind advice. :) I never thought of it that way tooblessed.:) Everyone thinks im a very attractive girl but I always attract the wrong kind of man. I get alot of attention whenever i go out but they all seem just to be after one thing and it makes me think are all bloody men the same and why would they want to treat women that way. They must think im some blonde bimbo but that couldnt be further from the truth. My upbringing wasnt the best and I know because I was rejected as a child I tend to hold on to these men longer than I should so I suppose i am proud of myself for keepin him out of my life. Im getting help for dealing with my childhood but it just hurts so much thinking about him and feel just dont know who i am anymore, apart from being a mother :) Every day feels like the same and it still feels so raw :(